I would go in and tell my boss as soon as possible. This would be more of a courteous than looking for approval. You do not need anyone's approval for this surgery. You are an adult and can make your own decisions and I think that you are making an excellent choice. I too did not tell that many people except very close friends and family. I figure that is nobodys business anyway. It was the best decision in my life and i will never regret the surgery of going to Tijuana Mexico to have my surgery with Dr F Garcia. He has given me back my life and it will never be the same for which I will be forever grateful.

As for the larger co-worker that went off on you about doing it the old fashioned way I will dismiss her and let her see the results that you are going to achieve. If losing weight for some of us was that easy then why is she still so overweight. And do not let her tell you that she wants to stay that way and that she happy.

Please keep me posted as to your surgery and how you do after. I know you will do great and have my support.

I would go in and tell my boss as soon as possible. This would be more of a courteous than looking for approval. You do not need anyone's approval for this surgery. You are an adult and can make your own decisions and I think that you are making an excellent choice. I too did not tell that many people except very close friends and family. I figure that is nobodys business anyway. It was the best decision in my life and i will never regret the surgery of going to Tijuana Mexico to have my surgery with Dr F Garcia. He has given me back my life and it will never be the same for which I will be forever grateful.As for the larger co-worker that went off on you about doing it the old fashioned way I will dismiss her and let her see the results that you are going to achieve. If losing weight for some of us was that easy then why is she still so overweight. And do not let her tell you that she wants to stay that way and that she happy.Please keep me posted as to your surgery and how you do after. I know you will do great and have my support.

Thank you so very much. Your post definetly gave me a jilt in the right direction. Your right. I do not exude self confidence, I also do not like the attention either way positve or negitve. Would I like support yes. I do not need approval though. Thanks again

If you go tell the person who had the bad reaction that you are going to go have the surgery, and you are telling her this in confidence - no one but she and your boss know - she should keep her mouth shut. If she is in a leadership position, she has to know talking about an employee's private medical business is NOT OK and there are laws against it.

Make up a plausible story to tell when you get back from surgery. I told people I was having "plumbing surgery" and that shut people up. Other people have "gallbladder" or "hernia" surgery. Once you are visisbly smaller, tell people you had to change your diet before surgery and have kept it up afterwords, you like the way it makes you feel. No one has to know your business.

Good Luck!

I feel you pain. My current boss was acually my best friend before becoming my boss. It was hard to lie to her but I had to tell her that I had to have surgery on my gallbladder. Afterwards I told her that they had to take a piece of my stomach too because it looked atrophied from years of pain meds from my back. My doctor's note is from his surgery center and simply states that I am under his care. You don't have to even disclose what's happening, only that it will require you to be out a certian time and that then you'll be fine.

I've kept mum as well, but anyone who says this is easy - is full of it. This has been the hardest thing I've done. But it will be SO worth it.

I literally dont care what anyone thinks, i tell anyone who will listen, some people have expresssed opinons that they dont think i should do it but i havent had anyone be mean to me, but they probably wouldnt go there anyway because they know i would give it right back. i leave tomorrow morning to be sleeved by dr aceves in mexico and i cant wait!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I tell anyone who asks about my weight loss how I did it. BUT, I have a different personality than many. I'm not intimidated by many people and I have no problem standing up for myself. At one time, my "level" was sleeve evangelist. I think that's a perfect title for me. I find myself wanting to tell obese strangers about my surgery and success so far!

I can't wait to hear what your co-worker says a month after you've been sleeved and she sees those pounds melt off you. I bet she'll be asking you a lot of questions, and will probably be on the internet like the rest of us doing her own research before she ends up sleeved!