AMEN!!!!

Wow Life as Liz , You sound upset! Personally I wish success and health to everyone who has had wls!

Two fingers, One Love !

CAMMYD*:-)

I'm sorry you are so upset. Where did you get the statistic of 1 in 3?

Did you read someone's post and it rubbed you the wrong way?! Don't let it get you upset, instead share with them the proper way or your thoughts on the subject. Like CammyD, I too wish everyone success. It would be unfortunate to have this procedure and for it to fail.

All the best,

Niki

Thanks for all the replies guys.

@Ivy - I got my stats from my surgeon.

What made me so mad was on a different forum.

My problem is that I can't be the food police. Especially since I'm not a doctor and I'm still a noob. I want everyone to succeed. But my way of doing so is somewhere along the lines of, "wtf are you doing?! Do you want to be successful or do you want to fail and not lose the weight?" A bit harsh.

What happened was this:

A person posted that they really wanted a cookie. It got a good amount of replies. Then one person replied that they got sugar free oreo's from walmart. The original poster replied saying that they'll have to stop buy walmart and check that out.

I'm almost 8 weeks out and I'm pretty sure they both had their surgeries after mine. I know at least one of them did for sure. I wanted to write something alone the lines of what my example was above, "wtf! Do you want to be successful or not?" But I didn't because I didn't see it ending well. So I ranted to my bf and then came here and posted that I was pissed. My bf said I shouldn't being the drama from there to here, so that's why I didn't get specific. Good thing too, since it's much easier to explain things when you're not heated.

I really want everyone to succeed. The other forum I'm on is specific to my program. We have a whole binder explaining exactly how we're supposed to do everything. We all had to go through a bunch of stuff and classes to get our surgeries. They really try to drill it into our heads what life will be like after surgery and what you can and cannot eat. You'd have to be not paying attention or not care to not know what you are obviously not supposed to eat (specifically according to my program). It infuriates me because why the hell would you get a major elective surgery and then go and f**k it up!?! I'm not saying a little experimentation (I know I'm guilty here) is going to mess everything up and cause failure, but I don't understand why it would be worth the risk. For example, why keep the cookies around just in case you want them. It just screams of setting yourself up for getting off track. I keep hearing now is the new habit forming stage and you've got to make the good habits now because it's really hard to make then later.

There's really no logical explanation why this makes me so mad. Their success or failure doesn't effect me personally. I guess I just want to be helpful and correct people when they're doing things that could potentially harm their weight loss efforts. I'm not trying to be mean about it, but I don't know how to say things so they'll sink in and be taken seriously other than, "are you trying to f**k this up?" I'm not surprised that given my upbringing, this is the main way I know how to communicate things. I wish I could be more tactful when it comes to things I am passionate about.

I hope that makes sense.

~Liz

Yes, you do make sence. . .and I also understand where the other comments are coming from. The main thing is, you must remember we are all different, and some of us are blessed with the gift of "common sence" and most people sorry to say are not! That's how I am with most everything except my body of course, this is where I fail. We all have something we need to work on. . .Understand that your level of commitment might not be everyone elses, and is sad indeed. The people who fail might even be contributing to other people's failures by giving them these "cheat tips" which in the end affects the stats and the opinion of the general public. The media tends to focus on the failures and never the accomplishments . . .I'm currently dealing with my family. Because of all the media my mother thinks I will regain, I'm having surgery on 10/20/11. But afte going with me to a support group her and my husband were amazed to see how many succesful people are out there and that this is possible. My surgeon's coordinator alone los 210 lbs I mean, that is the weight of an obese person. . .the have a different opinion now. You are right to be dissapointed, you are right in saying that the affect others and you were better off not speaking your mind there because they will eat you alive!