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UGH!!!

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NikiS

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I know I just did a blog entry but as I previously stated - I have a lot on my mind.

 

Anywhoo, I have a friend and he is very supportive of me having surgery. He's fine with me the way (size) that I am and initially when I shared with him that I wanted to have surgery and later told him that I was definitely having surgery he was and has been nothing been supportive, cooperative and understanding. HOWEVER, just about every conversation we have he mentions the surgery but not necessarily in a bad way.

 

True examples:

 

We were talking about how quickly the weather had changed and just as quickly for no rhyme or reason he says, "when you have your surgery and you're all thin I'll still love you."

 

We were talking about 2 Fast 2 Furious and out of the blue he says, "will you still love me when you're thinner after your surgery?"

 

He asked if I enjoyed vacation with my family and before I could answer he said, "guys try to hit on you now, but after your surgery will you continue to ignore them? You're not gonna leave me right?!"

 

While talking on the phone he kinda worked my nerves and I was hang up and he said, "and the transformation begins. Before your surgery you had more patience now you don't." Then you caught himself because I haven't had surgery yet.

 

There's always some reason to mention it, how he knows I'll be after I have it, the "transformation", etc. He's a wonderful guy and I love him.. I do, but today I questioned for the first time why on earth did I tell him. Of course I had to because he is who I bounce things off of, he's a special friend and he cares about me, and I wanted to share it with hm, but...UGH!!!

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Your "friend" (wink wink) seems a little insecure. All you can do is reassure him that you're not gonna go hollywood, you're just going "healthywood". Let him know it'll be to his advantage, because you'll be more open and willing to share new experiences with him that you wouldnt pre-surgery. It may or may not work. If he doesnt trust your friendship enough to understand that you arent doing this to leave him, then maybe you gotta figure out if his stress is going to be a help or hinderance during your transformation time.

so far I've only told my husband, and he's so supportive that I cant thank God enough everyday for him. He's secure enough in himself and our marriage to know that I dont have any plans on leaving once I lose this weight, but I do plan to make things spicier than ever with him once I'm physically able! LOL

Stay blessed, enjoy the rest of your day! Oh, and thanks for commenting on my blog!

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I think you may be right. For as outgoing as my "friend" ;) is and for all of the confidence that he has he may be a teeny tiny bit insecure. He and I have talked several times about the "advantages" and he seems okay but then in later conversations he mentions something about the surgery. I am trying to go healthywood (by the way I like that term) with a splash of hollywood. I think I dress alright now but I'll be able to add more of a variety later. I guess I need to prepare myself for those inevitable comments too - LOL.

God bless you!

Nik

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