wow.. I feel you.. just hang in there girl i am sure everything will be for the better your story kind of made me think of my situation at home. I am currently in the process of getting the sleeve done as well i will finish with my classes by the end of june so i am looking at 3 months after that to get something scheduled. and my husband is the same way he calls me fat-pig ugly and other things but yet i still stay with him he works he is a good dad he is very active with the girls in there sports but its the name calling that bothers me.. and it has affected my self esteem I just decided that I was going to just go on with the surgery and see where that takes me. I am not doing it for him i am just doing it for myself to build my confidence wether its to move on with my life without him or to look for another job and to love myself and live a longer life with my girls.

I am so sorry you are going through it too...it is not right for the name calling and Iknow we are strong and want to keep our family together so we put up with things we shouldnt have to...It seems like you are deciding on the surgery for the right reasons..not to please your husband, so far just loosing the little that I have I am already getting some of my self confidence back and boy does it feel good...good luck with your choice of having this surgery and I know good things will come to you.

Dear New Me,

I am so sorry that you are having all these problems at home. Hopefully you can hang on to the fact that you are a unique person of value, no matter how you husband talks to you! My husband was not excited about me getting the surgery (I am five days post op gastric sleeve), but he did go with me to the hospital (I had my surgery in Mexico) and was very helpful in the immediate post op period and coming home. I think he has his own issues with weight (he has always been overweight also) and my doing something about my weight causes him to feel guilty that he isn't doing anything about his problem. I am tryibg to be extra understanding and loving since he has been so good to me during this period.

I will remember you in my prayers tonight. Pray that you will start to feel better and remember that YOU ARE A PERSON OF WORTH! You deserve to be loved! If not by your husband, love yourself!

KathyD49

WOW SOO SORRY ABOUT YOUR HUSBAND.... BUT WE ARE JUST A FEW DAYS APART.AND REALLY CLOSE TO THE SAME STARTING WEIGHT....WE SHOULD TRY TO KEEP IN CONTACT FOR EXTRA SUPPORT..... JUNE 7 223 PRE-OP AND 212 SURGERY HIT 199 ON LAST THURS. AND HAVE NOT LOST EVEN A HALF A POUND SINCE...VERY SCARED THAT I AM DONE ALREADY. BEEN UP AND MOVING BACK TO WORK ON MY FEET FOR FOUR DAYS NOW.STILL NOTHING ? I AM EATING MUSHY FOODS NOW WITH A BABY SPOON LIOKE TUNA ,EGGS, MASHED POPTATOES,EGG SALAD, SRING CHEESE. ALL VERY LOW FAT LOW SUGAR ALL THIS IN THE RULES..EAT VERY VERY SLOW THE MORE MUSHY YOU EAT NOW THE SOONER YOU CAN EAT REG. FOOD.GOOD LUCK AND LET ME HERE FROM YOU....THANKS KELLI