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OMG I am that 3% that this doesn't work for?!?!

foxgirl74

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Alright, I know everyone feels at some point they are that slim percentage that this surgery does not work for, but omg really?!? It's so hard because we all come on here and read about stalls and pray we don't go through them, or hope when we do we will bounce out of them quickly, but seriously this is maddening!! I have been in a stall for almost 2 weeks now. I lost such a huge amount right before and after surgery it literally felt like I lost it overnight! But now I am jumping on the scale every few days (I know I know too often) and I am seeing nothing!! Not even ounces. I should be thankful I am not gaining, but at only 300 cals a day it's hard to be thankful when I should be losing! Seriously, on "good" days I got up to 600 calories. Most days it's around 300. At that rate I should have been losing at least 2 and a half pounds a week even if I did no exercise whatsoever. And I have been exercising. So to see nothing makes me feel like a big fat f-ing failure. I told myself once I have this 20 thousand dollar tool I am going to succeed, and I'm not right now. I know this too shall pass and I will start losing weight again, but this is taking a giant mental toll that I am not handling very well. I am getting in my water, my protein and some exercise. There is no reason this shouldn't be working. I know my body is freaking out, and in the rational part of my head I know this, I knew it would happen, I know it will pass. But the other section of my head is flipping out wondering why God hates me and wants me to stay fat. I have even been avoiding this website because I don't want to have to report the hard part of this and feel like a failure and put it out there that I am not losing. I also didn't want to read everyone else's success because I am jealous, but I need to get over it, press on and try to keep the faith that this will work. Slowly and surely this will start again, weight loss will start picking up. But for now, I am sulking, wishing I could gorge on something, anything to "make me feel better". :(



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Keep your head up! I too am in the dreaded "stall mode". You just have to remember why you did this, and how much better you're going to feel when the scale gets moving! Your body is just taking a minute to catch up with all of the changes. You can do this! Try to stay off the scale for a few days and spend some time doing things you enjoy. Go outside, play some mini-golf, go get a mani-pedi...just do something to get your mind off the scale! Before you know it, this will be behind you and the scale will be moving again!

Let me know if you want to talk about it.

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I say this with love. First of all, you have just gotten out of a major surgery... your stomach was ripped out less than 3 weeks ago. Think on this. If someone had their leg amputated, would you expect them to be able to run a race in 3 weeks with a prosthetic?

You have written the answers down in your post on how to break your stall. You are smart. shake it up.

at only 300 cals a day...Up your calories. Double calories, you body is in serious starvation mode. It is trying to heal and needs energy.

I am getting in my water, my protein and some exercise. How can you be getting all of your protein at 300 calories a day? How many grams of protein...be honest. What kind of protein, whey or isolate or ? Are you eating any carbs? How many a day?

I am jumping on the scale every few days (I know I know too often) Divorce the scale. Stay off the scale for a week, no cheating. Think of this as WW and if scale does not move "skip" a weekly weight in. Yyu are beating yourself up with this pattern. Stop it.

makes me feel like a big fat f-ing failure. ARGH - stop talking to yourself like this. You can do this, you did not gain the weight in 2 months, nor will you lose it in 2 months.

press on and try to keep the faith that this will work. Yep, keep smiling, you will lose the weight.

Or what if you are one of the "slow" losers? We will find this out in 5 months, not 3 weeks or 4 weeks.

There are some slow losers on this site. COOP & PamelaAM to name a couple. Look up their posts. They struggle often, but guess what? They keep on plan and the scale moves, not as often as others or they would like, but it does move. I will be here to celebrate your loss, whether it be a pound or an ounce.

Either way - the scale has moved in the right direction. Give yourself the grace of time and patience. Start being kind to yourself and take better care of yourself.

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Thanks for the replies guys! And you are both 100% right! It's just a head thing, and being back to "normal" life in every other aspect makes the surgery seem like a surreal experience. In order to qualify for insurance I actually had to gain some weight, so that messed with my head some as I was not keeping track and gained 60 pounds in less then 6 months.

As for my intake, I have been drinking these Premier Protein shakes from Costco. They literally have 30 grams of isolate protein per shake, and only 160 calories. 5 carbs I think. I drink two of those a day as directed by my surgeon. Often I only have that for the day and that reaches my protein goal and has me at only 320 calories. My surgeon said I could have a third "meal", and to have a small piece of cheese or something similar with protein, low carb. At only fitting 2 - 3 oz at a time I only get about 80 calories from this "meal". So, I am getting about 60 - 65 grams of protein, and only 400-450 calories a day on the days with the extra meal. But I think I need to play with that a bit and increase them. I just get paranoid thinking I will somehow gain weight on 600 or 800 calories. I would have killed to stay at that range pre-surgery!!

It just is hard to think of myself as being a slow loser. I was not before when I would lose weight, but I just couldn't keep it off. So I guess if that is what it takes to keep it off, then so be it!

Once again, thanks for the feedback and input, this is hard, but we all go through these stalls, and I am officially packing up the scale and only going to weigh once a month. AND, I am going to take my measurements and check those once a month.

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Hey! I remember my surgeon telling me there would be times of little to no weight loss, but that my clothes would fit differently because I would loose inches not pounds. Also, my nutritionist said Whey protein is the best. Check with one in your area to be sure you are drinking the right one. You will make it through this stall and you will reach your goal weight! Good Luck Foxgirl74!!! Remember one day at a time :)

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Thanks for the reply, support and info Court!! I was using a whey protein prior to surgery so I will for sure check it out and get back into it! Funny how the inches don't make use as happy as the pounds but are just as important for our appearance!

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You are so welcome! I just read your profile and realized we had our surgeries the same day! today makes FOUR WEEKS!!! YAY! I feel better than ever and I am wearing clothes i haven't worn in over two years. It is still one day at a time and I just bought a scale yesterday. I am down 31 pounds but i see the inches melting away. the little spot on my back where my husband used to "lvoe pinch" me is almost gone...ironic thing is i am happy and he is sad! LOL. I hope that you are doing well. I also read your other blog aout your mother in law, I am so sorry to hear of your family's suffering. We will keep her in our prayers. I saw you drank some chocolate milk, good for you. LOL. I have learned to not deprive myself of something. Nothing works if we do. Keep your head up! :)

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Wouldn't you know, according to my surgeon "milk is not for people over 5 years old".....lol ok buddy, we all just need it for the taste now and again!!

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