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Are my goals out of whack?

Day Dreamer

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After reading so many comments about people being near their goal weight, I have to question my own goal weight. The Dr asked me what I thought my goal weight should be based on what I believe my bone size (I said medium). So anyway I currently weigh 265 ish and I am 5'8" ish. I told the Dr that my goal was 160-170 and he smiled. He did not disagree.

 

I wouldn't mind getting back to 145-150 lbs but wonder if that is "too thin". I would rather be 170 and very fit. Since I recently had spinal cord surgery, exercise will not be as intense as it is for other Sleevers. I included that knowledge when factoring my goal weight. The thing is, I wasn't planning on worrying about my weight, but instead to use NSV's as a tracking mechanism. I planned to weigh in maybe once every two weeks.... but I constantly read people weighing in daily (?), or every couple days. Maybe I am looking at this wrong?!?!

 

Lastly, I focused more on other types of goals instead of my weight, such as:

- being able to exercise for a full hour per day

- I want to do one charity race per year (Avon, Walk for a Cure etc)

- walking up the stairs without being out of breath

- Walk up multiple stairs LOL

- getting into a size 12, 10 or 8

- being able to play with my kids (not be winded or tired)

- maybe I will never run again, but chase my kids, or even a light jog daily.. that would be nice

- able to have amazing stamina in the bedroom (bow chicka wow wow) LOL

- I desire steamy romance, but being big makes it kind of uncomfortable and limits my stamina

- and maybe getting a few looks here and there...

- this is a selfish NSV, I know. But I am 30y/o and there is still a need to feel sexy.

 

Honestly, I wasn't so fixed on a number. Any number under 200 would be welcomed at this point. I know it sounds odd since so many people have that "number" and stay strict to it. I have always been the odd girl out, never following the norm.. So yeah, my goals seem to focus not on weight but on NSV's and I wonder if that is going to be a problem.


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MicNic

I am 4.5 months out from surgery and have lost 97 lbs. People keep asking me what my goal is and I feel the same as you... anything under 200 would be great (I have a ways to go for that) but what is most important to me is to start living again!

I have 3 kids that I have been "watching". Watch them play and watch them ride bikes but not being with them, just sitting watching.

I want that to change and it already has!

I bought a new bike and have went with my kids a couple of times (weather isn't cooperating!) and I find myself being more active and ready to go. My self-confidence is boosted! I didn't realize how much my weight was holding me back. Now in the morning I just grab a pair of jeans, a shirt and a sweater ( I am always cold) and I go. I never fuss with my shirts, I never worry about if I look ok.. I just feel great! Like I said, still have another 100 lbs to lose but with the sleeve I know that it is possible and I am getting my life back!

Good luck to you!

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HLM

I am completely in your shoes. For the most part... I'm 5'8" and weigh 261. Surgery is scheduled for April 21st. My Dr. asked what I thought my goal weight should be and I said that I'd heard someplace I should be 150'ish. She disagreed and said I should be more like 140'ish. She said it was because I'm young (40) and healthy - whatever that means :D (I have diabetes and hypothyroidism). I think you're exactly on track with your choice of goal weight. I am also in agreement that a specific weight won't matter so much to me. I'll know I'm good when I look in the mirror and am happy with what I see. I asked my husband to keep a close eye on me and make sure I didn't get too thin. I don't want to end up looking hollow - I recently saw a pic of myself after a major diet about 15 years ago and I looked sickly - way too thin - and I think I was about 145. Needless to say, three babies later and that diet went south.

You're going to do great. We're both going to be able to play "WITH" our kids again and get up those stairs and keep going, get hot and steamy in the bedroom again... all those things and more.

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