I had a very difficult weekend with my husband and his daughter, who can do not wrong. We've been married 17 years and I also have a daughter, close in age to his. Long story short, his daughter has gotten a college education/ condo money for downpayment and the hands off treatment and I mostly just go along with it. My daughter has been through a lot growing up and has had problems with my husband but he never sees her side. I'm not saying shes perfect for sure but not the shining daughter he has. His daughter said some hurtful things about me and when my daughter told me I said "thats enough".

Before I would have swallowed it and hoped it smoothed over, certainly never confront my husband. Well....not any more. I think this surgery has helped me be a person whos opinion matters, I had a big problem causing fights and avoided them at all costs, with the result of stuffing myself with food. Well...not any more. The roof shook and it felt SO GOOD!!! I told him I would not be second to anyone and he could go live with her, well you get the idea. I was spitting nails.

We have had several talks since then and I stood by my opinions and he backed down, told him I would always voice my thoughts whether he liked them or not and not stuff them again. The same thing to his daughter. I am sure she could continue to cause trouble and know these things break up marriages but it is his decision to live with that, not mine. Long story but I just wanted to tell you that you will change if you push your new boundaries and believe in yourself. No going back.