I'm hesitant to share my decision with my family. My sister asked me over Christmas of last year would I ever consider wls. I kind of brushed it off like if my doc recommended it, I may look into it but not for sure. Truth be told, I started researching wls in september of last year. I think she would be supportive of vsg but I'm not sure if my mother would. I think I haven't told her because I'd rather not know if she supports me instead of knowing that she doesn't (does that make sense?). Once I have my consult I will definitely tell them, maybe even before. But for right now it's so far in the future for me I feel I should keep it to myself.

I'm sorry your mom isn't enthusiastic about you buying smaller clothing. Don't get discouraged or anything. You will reach your goal so continue shopping, you deserve it! Just a thought, maybe you can start shopping with another friend and avoid having those types of convo's with your mom. It seems that you guys are close so that may be difficult. Either way I wish you the best of luck and thanks for welcoming me!

Skye

Ohhhhhhh how I feel your pain with the mom issue. My mom was banded 2 years ago, and I now weigh less than her. Sometimes, her comments cut right through me. I don't even know how to react so I'm glad y'all were able to talk about it. My mom's latest rant is that if I don't stop losing "I'll wither away to nothing." Plus, her band is a typical fickle band, she can't get to a sweet spot and she's 2 years post op, so she just deals with the stalls, and pretty much diets all the time to maintain. She told me "I'd give anything to lose like you are, but I'm not going to do something wreckless like have 3/4 of my stomach removed." I just sat there dumbstruck.

I know you'll get to that size 8 DeeDee.

Thank you Skye and Tiff for the words of support! Family relationships are just so complex, but I know I wouldn't be who I am today without those relationships (but I probably wouldn't also have been in counseling either :-)

deedee, I know what you mean about relationships and especially ones with your family. Sometimes its something within themselves they can't get past and when you are successful or make a big change they don't know how to take it. Its hurtful but hard to break out of the image they have of you. Guess you will just have to show her the new you. Another thing that is maybe hard for her is that you won't know when to stop and get too thin/sick etc. That is another way of being out of control. Oh happy medium!!