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Such a long road, but what twists and turns

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debbieperez55

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Well, it is my Band Anniversary and things have changed.

 

#1 I left my husband, a cruel and abusive man. I grew a spine and walked out the door with nothing. He told me I had changed. He was angry that I lost weight. He lost his control over me. It is now a very bitter divorce, but I am free.

 

#2 I am dating again. It has been a year and I love my freedom. I have grown so much. I love myself for the first time in my life. I have excess skin, you don't like it, tough!!! My tummy hangs, you don't like it tough!!! My arms are big, TOUGH!!!

 

#3 I live with my Daughter. I am 57 years old and I live with my Daughter. I have nothing. But I am no longer isolated and alone. I would rather be broke than abused.

 

My life has changed, but I am enjoying life for the first time in a very long time. I love this stage. YES there are men out there who enjoy a more mature figure. Yes there are men out there that will take advantage of you. You just have to be cautious and never go back to the type of man in #1

 

My weight is stable. I am not thin, but I am happy. So, did I change, DAMN RIGHT I DID. Did I leave a cruel and abusive marriage, damn right I did. I started living for me. I don't care if I never have a possession again. I have my dignity. No one should live their life in fear as a door mat. Take a stand, protect yourself.

 

TELL SOMEONE, you are not alone

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Debbie:

I'm so proud of you! No one knows what we endure in an abusive marriage. After 12 years of marriage, I too left my abusive husband and I know exactly what you mean when we say FREEDOM! Freedom to breathe, freedom to make your our choices, freedom to love yourself ( and that took a lot of time for me to do!) You hang in there, life has just begun for you!

I remarried 3 months ago to the most wonderful man that God could have ever paired me with and I am happier than I have ever been in my entire life. I was just banded 2 1/2 weeks ago and this man is 100% supportive of this and I can wait to live a healthier life. I truly feel like I have just started living for the first time in my life!

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Debbie:

I'm so proud of you! No one knows what we endure in an abusive marriage. After 12 years of marriage, I too left my abusive husband and I know exactly what you mean when we say FREEDOM! Freedom to breathe, freedom to make your our choices, freedom to love yourself ( and that took a lot of time for me to do!) You hang in there, life has just begun for you!

I remarried 3 months ago to the most wonderful man that God could have ever paired me with and I am happier than I have ever been in my entire life. I was just banded 2 1/2 weeks ago and this man is 100% supportive of this and I can wait to live a healthier life. I truly feel like I have just started living for the first time in my life!

Congratulations-twice. Marriage and banding. Great way to restart your life.

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