Hello, I feel your pain, and can identify with so much of what you wrote, I am not even 3 months out, have not had a fill yet and continually mess up. I had bypass in 2001 did great lost 150lbs, regained 80lbs had lap band on 2/27/13 lost 20lbs so far. My disease of obesity tells me daily what a failure I am, it sucks. I am looking for support if your interested let me know.

connie

We didn't gain these habits or weight overnight, and it is hard to change what have been mostly life-long habits. The fact is, you haven't given up so you are not a failure.

As for Chick-Fil-A, I go there from time to time for lunch. However, I order the grilled chicken nugget kids meal, with fruit as the side and diet lemonade. It's low cal, good nutrition and I felt like I was still able to "eat out". Maybe if you find yourself there you could opt for something like that ... just a suggestion. I know it's not easy.

You are recognizing recent eating behaivor's not conducive to your new lifestyle.....success! You are in "Onderland"...success (I am still having trouble getting there and I am 1 pound away)! You have lost 56 pounds in 11 months.....success! Stop thinking about your progress as slow or failing and think about all the successes in your life...including the small NSV's. Our attitude's play a huge part in this. I find 2 things everyday that I pat myself on the back for. This could be taking a walk (yay me) or logging my food for the day (whatever the calories are...I have logged it). These are all successes for me!

You are an inspiration to me Kime-lou. To have suffered such a great loss and still be able to function and look to improve your life is amazing. I understand the struggle with temptation...we all do. None of us got to the size we are by eating smart and as food is our drug of choice, you've simply fallen off the wagon a bit same as anyone else with an addiction. I have no great words of wisdom...you will find your way, I know it. You are a strong woman. Next year at Mother's Day...if children have not become a part of your life...do something wonderful for yourself to celebrate the person you are. Get a massage, go on a trip, buy a new outfit. Whatever brings you pleasure, go ahead and do it.

"I still feel like a failure and I should have lost much more by this point." Those words sound soooo familiar, where have I heard them before??? Wait, I know, that is the voice I keep hearing in my own head!

You aren't alone.

You aren't unique in your feelings.

And most importantly, you aren't a failure.

Don't know how you feel about the bible, but take a look at 1 Corinthians 10:13

I understand, like everybody else on this forum, how you feel about being afraid that this isn't going to work, or that you are failing. I am a teacher and 2 weeks ago it was Teacher Appreciation at school. Everyday parents brought in food for the teachers. There was breakfast one day, then Death by Chocolate, Sweet and Salty, Chips and Dips, and then Finger Food Day. Even though I told myself that I was going to do great and not go overboard, I not only went overboard but dove straight in with bells on. I was full everyday and miserable. Would say I would do better the next day and didn't. My doctors office offers support group every Tuesdayand I am there for most meetings. So, when I went this past Tuesday and it was my turn to talk I just started bawling. Told them all that I had eaten. But the scariest part for me in all of this was that not only did I eat it, but that I could eat it. I was surprised how much I could eat and not get sick. I did feel quite full, but didn't have anything come back up. That was what was scary. So, after everybody gave me affirmations of telling me that they had all been through this, and made me feel quite better, the psychiatrist who helps during the meetings said "Ok Christina, you have owned it and now it is time to get back on track". Once I told everybody there how I was feeling I felt so much better and got right back on track on Wednesday. So my prayer for you is that now that you have told all of us how you feel, you have owned up to your feelings and can get back on track. I know you know that you are not alone on this journey and we are all here to help. Best wishes to you.

Kimme - it's always a struggle, and we're not perfect people. That is what makes us, human.

As you know from your own experience, sometimes this process flows pretty easily; we're highly motivated, feeling good, looking forward in a positive way.... Then, life happens & knocks us off of our foundation. This by NO means makes you a failure. It makes you, human.

I've gotten a lot from your posts, and I feel confident that you will get back on track. Life is all about ebbs & flows, and I believe that a momentary setback will not stop you from moving forward on the path you charted for yourself.

And please please PLEASE stop beating yourself up and driving yourself crazy with the "I should'a done this, that or the other thing". That will only keep you in a negative state. Accept where you are.....and move forward. NOT easy, I know! You've come so far, and you can continue on.

A doctor once told me that success isn't being a perfect dieter. It's being someone who gets right back on track after blowing it. We all have to accept, that is the way it will always be. Life is not black & white. It's many shades of gray.

I feel for you. I am quite a bit older, have two children, 27 and 20. the age difference is that i had about 5-6 miscarriages in between my two children. those were the most painful times of my life. My doctors told me to stop... give it up. but is was determined and along came my son who is now 20, There is a great book by Johnathon shur, about getting pregnant after miscarriages. Read the book, make sure you see a specialist, and focus on getting healthy. A lower weight on your part will ensure a healthier pregnancy. I got pregnant successfully after I lost weight both times. My weight continues to be an albatross around my neck. 56 pounds in one year is a fantastic weight loss. You want it to stay off and make healthy life choices. keep going, don't give up. You are doing great. please write back if i can be of any support to you.

Thanks for all the support. It's been a rough month.