"another reason im posting this is so maybe when im successful with my band that i can look back at this and not forget how horrible things are/were. also i have now decided if i ever date people again my test is going to be what they think of obese people.. if they have bad feedback. theyre out of here."

Hang in there and you will do JUST FINE! People can certainly be mean, sometimes to unknowingly to themselves.

Yesterday is over! Make today a better one and tomorrow will be even better. One day at a time.

amy i feel you and understand...catfish is right....yesterday is over...sure it hurts and it always will..but

use that hurt to your advantage...prove those negative thoughts you have wrong..you are gorgeous inside and out...

there are mean people in this world..i hate mean people..i believe strongly in what goes around..

i was nearly home bound for 2 yrs because i was ashamed to go out..i am still struggling to bring

myself out of that..if i can do it, at 336 when i started, so can you..every day is a new day...

Everyone is right, people are just mean.

I am very proud of you for eating those cookies. See your day was not all hell.Your friends should have turned off the chat and /or stuck up for you but being that you are 21 they still need to grow up a bit. At 21 I don't know what I would have done about sticking up for someone.

Smile, one day you will be that thinner you and maybe help some over weight person in need.

Oh Amy. That made me cry! People are so cruel. I myself am 16 sleeps away from getting my band inserted. I am only 23 and am Morbidly Obese. I hate it how people judge me as being a horrible person just because I am large. I am lucky in the sense that I have an amazing fiance who has never known me to be a slim person. My weight issues all began at the age of 9yrs when I was sexually abused by a male family member. Overeating so that I 'hide' myself from the world is all I have done since.

I am looking forward to closing my life book and starting a new one in 17 days time!

Amy your post was simply heartbreaking. I am so incredibly sorry that you encountered such mean, nasty people. No one deserves that abuse.

Hang in there. ((hugs))

I tell my kids the reason why some people pick on others or hurt their feelings is because they feel badly about themselves and this helps them cope......but we are adults here and I can turn my mommy filter off and just simply say......SOME PEOPLE ARE JUST A**HOLES!! Don't let ignorant people like that slow you down. The only person that can truly make you happy is you and you will do fine!! Good luck to you!! :-)

Boy, those stupid ppl must think they're rocket scientist. They had no idea you didn't know you were heavy and felt the need to tell you. What asses! And to think they probably consider themselves adults.

Its really sad that society judges ppl by what they look like, instead of whats in their hearts.

I hope you stick with our chat board here b/c we have all heard these stupid remarks before.

You will find the support and understanding you need right here.

Look at the healthy new you! The new tool you are being given can change these things to PAST and good reasons to go forward. The choices are in your hands and wishing you the best. Today is a new day. Needing an extension belt on a plane was a reality and not a happy one. It is PAST and will be for you. Follow your PRESENT and FUTURE, filled with hope and sunshine. TODAY is a new healthy day! GOD is so good!

~hugs~ oh hun im so sorry you had to ender such a horrable night....

You will show them soon enough...and when your fit and healthy...you will have a strong heart....and help others through times like yu had to endor....

God love you......

I, too, am very sorry you had to endure that. I hope one day you will also find the confidence to speak up for yourself with your friends and others to not allow anyone to speak to you that way either. It is very hard to find that voice and courage for many of us that have wanted to be "hidden" for so many years.

You did great yesterday w/ not eating or drinking the junk and for that you should be very proud. Food doesn't have to control your life anymore, YOU do and you being strong like that is proving you can and ARE doing this!!

Just try not to internalize the rudeness of others and insensitivity of others. Bottling those feelings of hurt are often what led us to such poor self images and turning to food for comfort.

Have a great day!

Amy you seem like a sensitive, kind soul. More importantly, you seem like a very strong young woman. Unfortunately, a lot of people don't understand what it's like to be overweight, or depressed. When you can, expand your support system. There are people out there that will be sensitive to your needs. In the meantime, take good care of yourself.

Thank you everyone for the support and kind words. it means alot especially coming from people who have gone through it too and understand. Just wish i could push fast forward and get out of this body faster..

At 21 you are a lot stronger than most! I would have been crushed and that event would have fueled my depression and eating, but not you!! Girl, you sound like you're going to do just fine with this process. I know most of us have all been wounded by hurtful words, but like Dee said, you will be that much more experienced and thoughtful when it's your time to lend support. Heck, you're in the postion to lend support now... just talking about your evening certainly sparked my fire! We should consider ourselves very lucky -our surgery will help us become our better selves, but being an ugly, ignorant, and cruel person on the inside is inoperable!

thank you so much. i sure don't feel very strong though. i totally agree that they cant be fixed but we are on the path to becoming better

It makes me mad what COWARDS will say to people through a computer screen. Also, most young guys who would be on a site like that are D-bags anyway! As a girl they also view you as an easy target. You ARE better than them! We have the same starting height/weight. I guarantee those idiots wouldn't say the same thing to me... They are COWARDS!

Funny thing is I've been overweight since about 11, I've RARELY had anybody make fun of me for it. I was always bigger and stronger so they just didn't. They always made fun of girls. Again, easier target. In High School I played football and our QB was a tool. Always made fun of one cheerleader because she was a little heavier than he would like her to be (who the hell is he? God?)

I played defensive line and one day I blindsided him WELL after the play was over and knocked the wind out of him LOL. The coach was mad and I had to run extra laps around the track. Afterwards I told him to leave her alone or next time I'd take his knees out As far as I know he never said anything else!

Your friends should have stuck up for you! Young guys are typically DBags, stay away from chat roulette, and be proud of who you are and the life changing decision you have made! Good luck!