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Success or Failure "Who's to blame?"

♥LovetheNewMe♥

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Wow are we a judgmental bunch! I read these blogs daily and daily I become more and more frustrated with the lack of sensitivity we show for one another. And I am sure someone will slam me today for this blog but honestly I really do not give a flip. We all come to this site for help, think about it ladies and gentleman none of us could do this on our own. Not one of us could lose weight and keep it off. Each of us has our own personal set of reasons as to why we are obese, read the paper, listen to the news, As a society we are getting more obese daily, our eating life styles have to change if we want to succeed with any WLS and face it this is HARD. Some of us have been very successful and some of us are still struggling. Some people may never be successful because they can't get the physiological side of this process hard wired. What do I mean by that statement, eating correctly is half the battle! I am fortunate, I have lost all my weight, well don't pat me on the back too fast. I still struggle daily just like I did at 252 pounds, I wake up every morning knowing that I have to work every minute of the day on eating right. The rest of the world is not on my plan, the rest of the world could care less that I can't eat certain foods or certain foods make me throw up. My point folks is this, we have to help each other. Some of us get this really easy and quick and some of us are really hard headed and may never get this. But honestly is it not worth trying to coach one another and having a little patience, compassion and human dignity. After all remember we were all once the fat person in the mirror and the whole world has been judging us for a long time, thinking we just sit around and eat bon bon's and stuff our faces. As we become thin, please don't let us become the people who have judged us for so long.

 

In my line of work I am required to take sensitivity training, maybe we could all benefit from a little training! Sad we have to teach adults to be nice, no wonder our world is surrounded by so much evil and violence.

 

So my topic who is to blame, only us and if we choose to fail we have no one to blame but our selves, just look in the mirror!

 

Lapband is not for everyone, WLS is not for everyone, Surgery does not work for everyone and you and your surgeon can determine what is best for YOU!



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Very well written, and I respect your "opinion"

And people need to hear everyone's opinion.

In my case, this has not been hard at all! After the first 6 months were out of the way, it became very simple and easy , for me.

I too have lost all my weight, and I wake every morning thanking God I can face he day the same way any other skinny person can, not afraid of eating wrong, and not afraid of gaining weight.....

I can't wait to face the day, with no fear....what can possibly happen?

Like I said, everyone has their opinion, and that is mine....and that is what these boards are all about....people being banded and sharing their personal experiences....and people need to hear it all.

You are correct to say people should not be so judgemental. People should only respond by sharing what their experiences have been.....period.

Thank You

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Excellent post. I agree with quite a bit of what your wrote. I don't agree with some of it but I respect the way your articulated your thoughts and opinions.

I struggle sometimes after reading post after post of someone who just wants to whine and complain about the diet, the band, the dr, the support....it just gets old and I am learning that I just don't need to reply to that particular thread anymore..and I am doing ok with that. ;)

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Love this, I am not on this post to be beaten down, I have done enough of that to myself the last 30 years. We all started somewhere and some need to remember that before coming down so hard. I need support and encouragement, even when I screw up and you know what I might also whine once in a while. Sorry but just being honest. Thank you to the ones that have encouraged me so far as a newby. That is the only reason I come to this site, not to see drama. We all want to be healthy and lose weight right???????? Then help us don't make us feel worse. Love this site and most of the posts:) Raising a child with Down Syndrome has taught me alot about how to treat others and to be kind and more patient with people. We could all learn from that :):)

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