One day she will see you are on her side. I have a 34 year old son who is very obese. I have tried everything with him. He knows better because he has been thinner. He now has a wife and 2 sons who all eat crap! They lived with me for 10 months so I know how they eat. Awful. At least you are making great meals.

Good luck with her seeing you are not the wicked witch.

She is blessed to have a step mom like you! My parents were always at work when we were little so we ate a lot of junk food and fast food.Unfortunately those were that bad eating habits that stuck with me as an adult. I would have done anything for home-cooked meals every day!

teens you cant talk to them they kniw everything. At least you are showing her what good eatting looks and taste like and one day she might turn to it. Hopefully she is no over weight now. Good for you for tring and showing her something that will save her life one day.

line dancer

also step mom to 3 grown kids

aj

i think having a step mom like you setting the example in regards to food and lifestyle changes is wonderful

all you can do is be there for her and that is what truly matters..making healthy food is the best thing to do.

Thanks everyone. I know I'm doing right, it's just sad to see. She is 5'8", size 12, and is starting to get a stomach on her (not sure what she weights). She is what my mom would call 'big boned'......

Well her mother should go to jail. I hate when parents let their children eat like that. It's a form of child abuse. I just took care of a 33 year old male who weight 881lbs who has lived with his mother his entire life. It's just abuse and it sucks that parents think its the right thing to do to feed their kid crappy food. Keep doing what you're doing and pray she doesnt get obese.

Thanks everyone. I know I'm doing right, it's just sad to see. She is 5'8", size 12, and is starting to get a stomach on her (not sure what she weights). She is what my mom would call 'big boned'......

I was exzactly as you said as a girl "big boned". And it is true my bone structure for a female is on the larger size. I also have an endocrine disorder called PCOS. I've had it my whole life according to the Reproductive Endocrinologist who dinagnosed me at 28 years of age with the disorder when my husband and I went to boston ivf for a diagnostic as to why we where having trouble with conception.

My relationship with food before the diagnosis was an awful one. When i was her age that is when the trouble started, no matter what I ate it was never enough and I was always hungery dispite eating healthy meals. I also at twelve started my cycle and things just went south from there. I gained weight dispite diet exercise and eating healthy meals. Part of it is the blood suggar spikes that are happening within the body if these go un controlled the weight gain for her is never going to cease.

Can you talk to her about how she feels when she eats, for me when I don't eat after a very long time say waking in the am I don't get a hungery signal and I feel sick to my stomach. But when i do finally eat that is where the ravenous hunger would start and from breakefast till dinner it semed the hunger never went away. unchecked high suggars can lead to cardiac problems and even blindness and problems with cirrculation and limb loss. Does she have an incidence of type II diabetis in her family? Did her mom have gestational diabetis while pregnant with any of her offspring? Also is she developing male hair growth(the legs will show dark hair first it hten progresses to the armpits and unfortunately the face and other areas are often covered with hair).

The pcos can also lead to dysufunctional and painful periods due to fibroid formation within the uterus.

I can understand your concern for your step daughter. She may want some help but might be to intemidated by her mom's poor reflection of you as a step parent. Can you talk to your spouse about it and just say you are worried for your s. daughter's health? I know this is a hard time for her as a teen and she might not realize it now but you are only trying to help her.

I was exzactly as you said as a girl "big boned". And it is true my bone structure for a female is on the larger size. I also have an endocrine disorder called PCOS. I've had it my whole life according to the Reproductive Endocrinologist who dinagnosed me at 28 years of age with the disorder when my husband and I went to boston ivf for a diagnostic as to why we where having trouble with conception.

My relationship with food before the diagnosis was an awful one. When i was her age that is when the trouble started, no matter what I ate it was never enough and I was always hungery dispite eating healthy meals. I also at twelve started my cycle and things just went south from there. I gained weight dispite diet exercise and eating healthy meals. Part of it is the blood suggar spikes that are happening within the body if these go un controlled the weight gain for her is never going to cease.

Can you talk to her about how she feels when she eats, for me when I don't eat after a very long time say waking in the am I don't get a hungery signal and I feel sick to my stomach. But when i do finally eat that is where the ravenous hunger would start and from breakefast till dinner it semed the hunger never went away. unchecked high suggars can lead to cardiac problems and even blindness and problems with cirrculation and limb loss. Does she have an incidence of type II diabetis in her family? Did her mom have gestational diabetis while pregnant with any of her offspring? Also is she developing male hair growth(the legs will show dark hair first it hten progresses to the armpits and unfortunately the face and other areas are often covered with hair).

The pcos can also lead to dysufunctional and painful periods due to fibroid formation within the uterus.

I can understand your concern for your step daughter. She may want some help but might be to intemidated by her mom's poor reflection of you as a step parent. Can you talk to your spouse about it and just say you are worried for your s. daughter's health? I know this is a hard time for her as a teen and she might not realize it now but you are only trying to help her.

Thanks for the reply. My husband and I have discussed her eating habits. He has tried to talk with her but she gets very defensive. She knows all about my weight loss journey, I'm an open book about it in hopes that if she wants help she knows I'm right here for her.

For now that is all I can do.

oooo hun you know i know what your going through ...i am with my 11 yr old also....

update on him....he is making way better choices....and slowing down some....I make him wait 20 mins when he wants a snack...and if he still wants it after that he can have it....He is proud of what he is doing....sad face he is in a full leg cast due to football so thats hampering his exersizing.....

So Princess you are planting the seeds and helping them grow.....even if she doesnt fallow now she will hopefully some day.....hugs its hard....

oooo hun you know i know what your going through ...i am with my 11 yr old also....

update on him....he is making way better choices....and slowing down some....I make him wait 20 mins when he wants a snack...and if he still wants it after that he can have it....He is proud of what he is doing....sad face he is in a full leg cast due to football so thats hampering his exersizing.....

So Princess you are planting the seeds and helping them grow.....even if she doesnt fallow now she will hopefully some day.....hugs its hard....

Seeds are planted, her father & I are here to help every way we can. It just breaks my heart.

Glad your 11yr old is improving.