You say it just started 6 months ago. Do you thinkk that maybe Curt is feeling some stress over another baby coming? People release stress differently, it kinda sounds like he might've tried holding it in and the dam broke so now everything makes him go off. I'm not saying he's cheating or not cheating, or its the new stress or not, but something new is going on. If this isn't how he normally is, I would seek counseling from a pastor or the like before you call it quits. p.s. You are definitly not complaining, you are reaching out for answers, and thats good.

FIRST OFF- I would NOT consider Curt abusive... ect.. Its just not how i feel children should be handled. I am not above spanking because sometimes you just have to to get Tuck to realize the word no. He has a hyper active disorder and he gets in trouble if he gets bored and requires 100% Constant attention or he will get into things or get hurt. Obviously his parents spanked for everything vs a verbal correction or warning ( They had 3 boys and i was an only child hince the difference )

Second- He smacked the back back of his head.. NOT HARD, just smacked it... NOT SLAMMED IT.

THIRD- I am not in fear of my sons life.... Its not even like that. Its just not my parenting style. Nor in fear for mine... Emotionally we are just not there.

WOW- had to delete 3 comments... this is why i don't talk about it because i feel like people focus on negative vs postive changes..

KMT1973 thank you for the advice! I agree...

I'm sorry for the negative comment.

I grew up in a home like that, after 17 years..... well, that's my story, not yours.

I hope everything works out for you and your family.

I think alot of this has built up... Curt is working up to 60 hours a week in 100-111 degree weather... and then us fighing and just the silence isn't helping anything... Maybe i need to sit down and just talk to him. But its hard to open up ..

Do you think that maybe he is somehow angry or fearful you will leave him? You have lost weight, do you think that maybe you are re-evaluating your relationship because you might feel that you have more options? Just a thought....

I filed for divorce 8 months after I got banded because my ex was becoming a total douchebag. I realized that all I had been through with getting laid off, losing both parents etc.. that I would work my ass off vs being stuck in a place where I was not happy. Do you think you could get him to counseling? IF not maybe just you? Good luck!

Douchebag is an understatement... I don't think he thinks i'm going to leave.. I actually am still 50 pounds bigger than when we met. I don't really know how to explain the **** he does... Its a HUGE reflection of his brothers & dad... For example.

His mom works long random hours... She works for a catering company and also helps them with the food service part as she is a manager... She might get to work at 5 am to check a grocery order and work alllllll day till 6 or 7pm at night.... depending on whats going on, and i've even seen her stay till midnight to serve drinks ect.... So 5am to midnight is a long freakn day.... And she still comes home and does dishes and cooks dinner. Like His dad will call her at work and ask her what she's making for dinner when she gets home... KNOWing shes been at work since 5am.... She comes right home through the door and starts on the dishes that have piled up all day because they refuse to wash them... I'm not even kidding... Him and his dad will let the dishes set all day... and only wash enough for them to fix a sandwich or get a drink. It pisses me off so much to see her be treated like that... His dad and his brother work.. But just a normal 40 hour week. and are home by 4 daily.

Now on to curt.....

If he sees a mess, he will walk right past it and leave it for me to clean up. The other day He made himself a pizza and when i got home he had left the pizza pan on the stove with the cutter setting next to it and the pizza box & rapper on the counter along with his dirty plate and glass.... LIke it was just sitting there... and the trash can is 3 ft away.

Really? Thats stuff you would see a teenager do... And i think honestly he gets that from how they treat his poor mom..

We have a rabbit that stays mainly in the bathroom due to him making a mess with the bedding, and in the mornings its on the floor. Curt will walk right past it instead of grabbing the broom and sweeping it up.

I'm pregnant right now and my hip does in and out, so i have to be very careful going up and down stairs because i will fall if it slips out. Our laundry is down in the basement and the stairs are pretty steep so i try to avoid them for fear of falling and even the pain after i walk up and down them without falling. I have to ask him to go start a load of laundry... like a week ago he had NO work clothing and still was too lazy to get up and put some in...

I have to write a "list" of stuff for him to do because he wont do anything... and he claims "tucker" wont let him. I can clean the WHOLE house in one hour while tucker naps..... ONE HOUR!! So Tuesday Tuck went to tinas ( A local sitter ) and Today i took him to chuck e cheese... BOTH days Curt said he'd clean up the house... Sweep, Swiffer Mop Vac & dust and clean the bathroom... Oh wait.. He said he'd so this sunday while i took tuck swimming.... And He's put it off ALLLL 3 times.... I feel so overwhelmed by all the crap i still have to do, i'm tagging all of my sons old clothing to sell to make room for the new babies.... and i'm studying for a big test coming up i would just like some help... I get sick of being treated like a molly maid!