You said something that has given me pause.. why didn't someone have an intervention..............I had lapband 3 years ago and my son is way overweight. I would do anything for him but I can not convince him to do SOMETHING about his weight.. and I do not think my talking about it (intervention) would help. I am so afraid he will die or have a stroke, He knows he is grossly overweight he dosen't need me to tell him.. you made a decision to save your life when you were ready I pray he does too. Good Luck to you replace food with something you enjoy so you don't go back..

Hi There,, I understand where you are coming from about the intervention. My Mom used to make comments to me about the weight gain but they were more in a chastised (or maybe nagging is a better word) manner rather then sitting me down to have an adult conversation. I love my Mom but she treated me like I was still 13 and refusing to do my chores as opposed to the 37 year old man that I was. I didn't need to hear "oh your getting fat again".

I have no children of my own and have no place offering advice but I think the approach to the conversation is huge. Hearing it from someone else besides from a parent would be huge as well. Again, this is nothing but the opinion of a childless 44 year old. You're right though...he has to want to help himself and hopefully that realization will happen sooner then later while there is still time.

Thank you for the well wishes and I hope you're son finds his way.

**Before anyone judges me I am in no way blaming anyone at all for my weight or weight gain especially my Mother. I just wish I had gotten a real reality check before I got so out of control**

jim, thank you for sharing your story. you have been my support on this forum since i started pretty much. i am in the (blame myself for gaining it back what i lost also).

i dont wanna ramble because you know i can.....what's done is done. there is nothing that we can do to make us what we (were).

What we were then is not whom we are NOW.

I would rather have you NOW then you were THEN.

you are doing so well. I am so proud of you and your wife is awesome because of her support. FABULOUS.

Let's look at today and then tomorrow for all the good it will bring us.

YOU are almost there. You are such an inspiration to me. I thank you for that sir.

I love that you also feel that you eat to live, not live to eat anymore. I am the same exact way. I started out just telling myself - I only need food for fuel for my body. If it's not lean protein, veggies, or fruiy my body doesn't need it. I've told myself this a thousand times. When I'm grocery shopping or browsing the fridge for dinner, I only look for those three categories. But just two months ago, a hamburger and fries was AMAZING. Now it doesn't even sound appealing. I kind of feel sorry for people I see eating garbage food because they have to work SO hard to burn it off.

Life is so refreshing now. I wake up every day excited and fall asleep satisfied, knowing my day was successful.

Super great job, being in the zone sir and congrats on the weight loss so far! While I am not banded yet and still in WLS limbo for the moment I am trying hard every day to control my obsession for baked goods. Fast food, greasy food, doesn't appeal to me anymore and I find myself evaluating every food choice to see if it's worth the work to eat it. But what still gets me is baked goods. Not even candy appeals. Iced coffees, no way. But you slap some cake, cookies, brownies, etc in front of me and yeah I'll eat it. So to combat this my fiance comes up with the plan that if I want the whatever I have to prove that I earned it that day, I have to add 15 minutes of exercise the next day or that day, and I have to take 3/4 of the recommended serving size so I eat less calories than listed. This is my evaluation tool and more often then not I don't want the extra hassle to have it. If I am willing to do the work for it then I really want it and its not just because it's there. So far its working out well for me, but I can't wait until my insurance comes to a decision so I know what tool I get to use to help me with this!