I COMPLETELY get being "one of the guys"! I have always gotten along better than men vs women. All of my close friends are males. My husband took a while to get used to it, but since he was friends with them too he didn't stay jealous for too long. The way men carry on...as amazing as it can be sometimes, can get highly inappropriate with a lady in the room. I've reminded them MANY times that I am a girl, and although I don't have virgin ears and talk like a sailor myself sometimes, at least consider that I'm a girl!! I love these guys to the end of the world, but geesh, boys can be grose!

Watch though, I bet they will treat you differently as you progress on your weight loss journey. My friend told me the other day that I was looking really good, and I think it was as uncomfortable for me to hear as it was for him to say, but the thought was nice!

By the way - I love your blogs!

I would think if you would change the way you talk that might help them see you more in the role of a lady. A lot of people take offense to language like that. God is someone I love and it is so hard to hear someone take his name in vain.

Sorry I know this will not make most people happy but sometimes you have to stand up for what you believe. I do not mean to hurt your feelings, I agree guys can be jerks, but what you say sometimes makes more of impression than how you look or what you do. I hope you take this in the way I am saying it and not as mean spirited, the written word can be read in many ways!

Cheri

I apologize for offending you, that was actually a joke, because ladies don't talk like that, hense the funny. I'm sorry non the less.

Sorry if I offend you too. That just stuck in my mind and wouldn't leave me alone till I said something. I hate that we get treated badly by some men and in your case where you are sourrounded by men. I think that guy said that to put focus on you and off of him . . .sounds like his problem. Hang in there!!

cheri

I also have worked with more men that women and honestly prefer it that way. They do not always think, and sometimes you have to roll with the punches! When we are carrying extra weight and rude things are said most of the time we do not tell them how we really feel.

I have found that if something is said even in joking, call them on it. It doesn't have to be rude, but in many cases it is the Pot calling the kettle black!

Many of the times it is the ones that are unsure of themselves that will make comments like that.

If they are single men, I have found that comments back such as:

"so does that line really work with women?

I bet your popular with the ladies?

Date much?

If married:

does your wife THINK your funny?

Do you talk to your wife like that? I am sure not you might walk in with two black eyes.

even a flat out.. knock you down.. I don't think so I am not rude like some people

Or..

Weebles wobble but they don't fall down..so you will pop right back up!!

(I have used this with a guy who pretty much said what he said to you..

It might not be the nicest but

I had had enough.. and he NEVER said anything negative again but was very respectful!!!

I do not advocate being mean, or rude but in a workplace , but sometimes you do need to give them a little smart ass back.

In regards to censoring your blog, its your blog... I read them and enjoy them. If someone is offended so be it they can skip over it.

It is obvious from your other posts that you do not talk like you work in a shipyard!! Grin

I am spiritual but nothing you said offends me.

If it bothers someone they can just block and I think your blogs will be blocked along with it.