Cazz I'm so sorry to hear how terrible your family is treating you. This is a time when you need their support more than ever. When they go, who will be with you to help you? Does your doctor's office or the hospital offer any mentoring or support groups? I would definitely reach out to the office and see if there's someone there you can connect with. You are not alone and do not have to face this alone. These sites are helpful, but it's not the same as having someone live that you can talk to when you need to.

As for "normal" feeling this emotional - I'm guessing yes. I was a total witch at the end of my pre-op diet because I was so flipping hungry! I'm better now, but it's only 9 days after surgery. I wish I could tell you the worst was behind you, but truth be told, you're going to need some real support the week after surgery. I don't know what I would have done without my husband, mother and brother.

Good luck with your family these last few days. If you are comfortable telling them how you feel, I suggest you do it. I'm not one to hold my tongue, but I understand not wanting to discuss your feelings with them. Sometimes its easier to let them be - but you deserve better than that. I don't know you, but I'm sure you are not a "grumpy fat ogre strung out for food". You are a strong, focused, determined woman who knows she has something to deal with and is choosing to better her lifestyle and make a change to live a longer, better and healthier life.

You can do this,

I'm so sorry. I chose not to tell many people because I knew I would hear negative feed back like, "Your taking the easy way out, or just eat right and you can lose weight"... My family knows, but I have limited number of friends that know.

Some people in your family are probably just jealous because they know you will be losing weight in no time and that probably bothers them (weird I know but it's probably the truth). Keep your head high. Your about to lose weight and feel great! The first couple weeks are really hards but once you see that number on the scale go down it will feel so good. Good luck in your journey.

if you live with these people, you can't expect them to change their eating habits because you are changing yours. They probably don't know what to say to comfort you right now, and maybe you are feeling low because of the liquid diet and not having food as an emotional crutch.

it will all get better soon, keep your chin up don't take things so personally (much easier said than done).

Maybe during large family meals you can "have plans already set" or have a class at the gym you are taking to get you out of the house and usually when you exercise you have a better outlook and mood. I am sure it is difficult right now to exercise since you have such a limited calorie intake but a pedicure might be nice

If I were you, I would never sit in my room sad and alone again. Only you are in control of your feelings. Choose not to be sad and get out and do soemthing different. Later they will see you leaving and exercising while they stuff their faces. As you get skinner and come in after a run while they are all carb loaded, they will start to be the ones taht feel bad. Just thoughts!

I am so sorry that you felt that way. SO tough!