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What A Strange Thing To Miss....

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mags2u

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So do any of you miss just being able to go out to a restaurant and pig out? I've had this "sadness" just a few times since my surgery. I do really great during the week because I'm so anal about planning things out and being prepared. However, on the weekends, my husband and I like to go out to different restaurants. As a bandster, I still can eat out, I just choose much healthier options and when my entree arrives, I have the waitress bring out a box with the meal so I can portion out my food I will eat and the rest I save for leftovers.

 

My husband is not the most romantic, but he suprised me with a date Friday and took me to the Hawthorne Inn in this little out of the way town called Labadie. Apparently the whole town of Labadie decided to go too, because we waited for 45 minutes. I chose the salmon with baked potato and it came with a salad. So the salad came and although I enjoyed a few bites, I stopped because I want to save room for the $21.95 salmon. I LOVE salad. I know its not a protein though and I have to get that in. Which brings me to the point of why I got the band to begin with- SO THAT I WOULDN'T EAT LIKE A PIG. But, every once in a while I get mixed emotions about my band. I thank God everyday for my band, because I was really becoming unhealthy. On the other hand, I sometimes have a pitty party for about 2.5 seconds and just wish I could finish my WHOLE salad, my WHOLE potato and MY WHOLE salmon.

 

Funny how my band, Prudence brings me back to sanity though. Once I'm "full" then I think, Maggie you're a weirdo. What a strange thing to miss. You feel great, you are full off of a fraction of what you used to eat and you've lost 32lbs! Like I said, I don't get bummed out a lot, and realize that I had a very unhealthy affair with food. Glad my relationship with food is changing, but it is an ongoing struggle everyday to change.

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I totally agree with you ...just today I was annoyed cuz I couldn't finish my food...but we need to get used to the fact that we can't eat that much anymore! I still make plates that have wayy too much food for me to finish. You are right though it shouldn't be something that annoys us if its going to make us loose the weight! This is why we did this! :)

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You are so right, but doesn't stop the feelings! I look at meals in restaurants on advertised on TV and I say to myself, "no way I could eat that much food", "that steak sandwich looks great but I feel greasy and know I wouldn't enjoy it the way I once did." I can tell I am changing because my thoughts come back to what is right for me, but the old me still trys to stick in their 2 cents!

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I agree with you. Every year we go to Mexico to an all inclusive resort, and for some reason last year I was REALLY tight and could not enjoy any food (drinks on the other hand lol) and here's my dbf eating everything in sight. I was only able to have 1 or 2 bites of anything. But I realized in the end this is how the band is supp to do the work. Unfortunately I haven't felt that much restriction since, but we're (the md and I) are working on it :)

Keep up the good work!

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no.. i've never felt like that. But i do miss certain foods...

Mags... next time you feel like that .... take a look around. Especially at buffets. Look at the people eating there, look at their plates.... Than think... that's what i'm doing all this for... so i don't end up like that... or so i stop being like that.

Ok.... tell me how mean i am and how can i say that because i use to be that.... but it's true....

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I've struggled with that so much. It's very frustrating. I really shouldn't be going out with people who don't know I'm banded. I just can't stop myself sometimes and then I feel sick or pb. It's not a good thing.

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I think everybody's got some kind of trigger...something we miss. Hubby & I do not eat out a lot & when we do, I'm usually glad I can't eat the amt I used to. But for Valentine's (at my request) he took me to a fancy, schmancy place that is a "farm to table" experience. Communal table for about 15 folks. Chef uses products he's grown or gotten from other local farmers. 5 course dinner. I knew I better start out like I could hold out, you know? So I had a bite of the bread & a taste of the salad, but by the time the succulent, utterly awesome filet arrived...I took about 3 bites & had to leave the table, go out by our car & puke. Bathroom was so close to the table I knew they'd hear me in there! I was embarassed...mortified actually & ticked off that I couldn't "enjoy" this meal. When I came back to the table--they'd brought out dessert & I took one bite & pushed it over to my husband (who by the way is very thin & was at his gag limit as well). so the chef (who brought out each dish & explained it all) & his wife were worried about me....I ended up making up a story about having to check on the kids & that's why I left the table 3 times & couldn't finish dessert. I didn't know any of these folks & didn't feel like explaining LAP band surgery to any of them. So we left $120 poorer w/ part of my dinner on the ground & we laughed & said "maybe we shouldn't do that again anytime soon"...live & learn w/ the band.

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I am in week 2 of eating regular foods. My husband and I go out with friends a couple times a month if we can. Now that I have the Lap Band, I feel so self concious around everyone when we eat. My husband tries to pick places that should have a few things on the menu that I can eat, but this weekend we went to a Cajun place. I love Cajun food, problem is it can have lots of gravy and huge portions. While everyone ordered the good stuff, I had to order a cup of Gumbo. All though it was good, I could only eat part of it and left the bread alone. Somehow I just didn't feel the same enjoyment from it as I used to. Oh well.

We are going on vacation in 2 weeks to California. I rarely drink, but I was really looking forward to going to a couple local wineries, but now I am not so sure thats a good idea:( If I drink a little I can't eat. If I don't eat a little, it goes straight to my head.lol

Other than eating out that causes problems sometimes, I am glad I have the band and hopefully in a year I am close to my goal weight.

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They warned us at the seminar that we would actually "mourn" food. I did not understand until the last few months. Yes, I have those same exact fleeting thoughts - fantasizing about having all the fluid removed "just once" for that one big pig-out meal. The thought is fleeting the minute I step on the scale (100+ pounds down in just under 8 months) or look in the mirror, or shop the regular stores instead of the plus size, or get a second look from a cute guy (I'm married - it's just harmless fun ;). In the end, the good of this band VASTLY outweighs the bad. So the fleeting thoughts of pity/mourning are quickly replaced with positive ones. BEST OF LUCK TO US ALL ON OUR JOURNEYS!!!!!

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I tell my hubby if only I could take big bites, I don't care what I have to eat, thats something I mourn, I tried to eat a tuna sandwich no bread today and ended up eating most all of it. and I never have done that. I think I was looking for that elusive mayonaise high I used to get, so I kept eating. but I never found it. Tomorrow its gonna be light/soups as now my throat hurts. We don't realize what we mourn, until we are facing it, and the timing will be different for everyone. I'm like you Mags, I love salad with lots of salad dressing, croutons, onions,,, mmm well you get the picture, nibbling on that fresh bread... my whole family knows that I have lapband and so when we go out and eat, it is no longer buffets, but a place where I can order houderves or childs plates. I can do this, we can do this, it isn't just for a little while its for the rest of our lives.... I agree best of luck to all of us!

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I have been banded for a month now or right at. I have gone out to eat with my husband and kids twice. Each time it was a buffet but, I ordered a kids breakfast of one egg (which I took maybe 5 small bites out of and was done) the second time (another buffet) I ordered a single serving of mash potatoes, took probably 3-5 bites and was done. I have done really well not over eating. I have amazingly learned to listen to my body tell me when I am full. I only wish now I was losing again, but I am only a month out

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