pardon my tantrum....

Well................... Honestly years ago I used to be your sister-in-law in my ways of thinking. When I did my first post on this blog I admitted I used to be one of THOSE people who thought if you just tried really hard you could lose weight. Honestly losing weight is really none of our problems it is the long haul and maintaining our weight. Negative thinking is all around us and some of it is due to ignorance and some due to jealously and some due to just being down right mean, that being said. I am sorry she was so mean and non-supportive, we do expect more from family but sadly they can be our worst critics sometimes. I must admit I am a total convert, this surgery is the hardest Diet I have ever been in because if I cheat I get physically sick. IDEA! I chose not to deal with negative people, family or friends. This is my life and I chose this journey and they can all, well you know what they can do. Sorry she was so mean, and hurt you not sure what she hoped to gain. Keep up the good work.

Ya funny I've gotten that same attitude. I have had lap band surgery now and am able to consistently lose weight and keep it off. I mean go for her for losing 50 lbs. I did that too before surgry lol. I just gained it back plus some after the fact. I don't know why people have to make it a big deal. You lose weight yay for you, but you don't have to down play someone else's progress because they used a different method.

OMG.... i would so have a hard time containing my self with your sister in law.... sounds to me like she is just jealous of you. Probabilities are she will gain the weight back plus some..(as we all have in the past).

To be honest, i would not have been so nice on FB.... i would have taken that opportunity to set her and her "friend" straight as to how hard WLS really is. Lets see her have the will power to not eat a hamburger on bun with fries, popcorn, Philly steak sandwich,.... etc... or eat with out concentrating on every bit and chewing till your jaw hurts, not drinking with your meals.......you get the point.

The band is just a tool, you can use it as it was designed for or you can choose not too. You can join weight watchers and choose to count points or not too..... you can buy the jenny craig and choose not to eat them..... I can't... i can't eat a lot of thing that i use to enjoy... but it ok, this is what i sighed up for... and i would do it again in a heartbeat if i had too.

I wish you all the continued success in your "shrinkage"... Your just desert will be strutting around in your size 8-10 jeans... and looking all hot.

By the way, your kids are adorable....

Awe my reaction is what a B!!! But I know from expirance jelousy really sets in when it comes to family I have a sister who is heavy like me and she is doing the HCG diet she has lost 17lbs in 19 days and tosses that in my face all the time about how this program is cheaper and only takes 6 weeks and she ddint have to suffer like I did with the surgery....I can so relate to you 100%. Its hard and Im so sorry she was like that and then to have to read the other comments from everyone else I agree with 'love the new me' because you are better then that and dont need negativity in your life like that no one knows how hard WLS is untill they do it. thats why i love this blog we can all so relate to each other and get the support we need. Keep up the hard work your doing great!!!! take care!

You will keep yours off and she will gain it back, then you can post "two years since WLS and ###pounds kept off!!!" and she will have gained her 50 pounds back and then some...

Karmas a b!tch...

Sorry you have to go through that! I hate when people have to make some else feel bad in order to make themself feel better..Selfish Ignorant people suck!

It really stinks. Thank you all for the encouragement. I truly want her to be successful. She has struggled for a very long time and she needs to be able to do this for herself and her children. I just wish that we could have done this together and been supportive for one another. Diane you are right about family. I could careless if anyone else supports my decision or what they think but it hurts when my family doesn't.

If I could have paid for her to do this with me I would have. I wish she understood that. I hate that she hasn't been able to get approved. But does that mean I shouldn't have gotten it? I tried to tell her today why it bothered me and she just didn't get it.

Oh well. Life happens.

You will keep yours off and she will gain it back, then you can post "two years since WLS and ###pounds kept off!!!" and she will have gained her 50 pounds back and then some...

Karmas a b!tch...

You are absolutely right!!!

I know it's hard but shake the haterz off! If taking cheap shots at you is what she needs to feel better hey, let her have her little moment. She could have easily shortened that post and just made it say she lost 50 lbs and she's happy with her accomplishment. But since she did take it there you keep on smiling and kill her a** with kindness. Wish her well and let her attitude and people with her type of attitude be your motivation to reach your goal weight and stay there. You got this!!!

My crystal ball says in five years you will be comfortably thin and she will have gained it back and more...especially with the phentermine (been there done that)!

Well, I can honestly say that I'm mad as heck at those comments!!!!!! I can tell you the phentermine tool only gave me a heart condition, not just with the medication, but the yo-yo weight....20 off then 30 on, 50 off then 70 on. I praise God there is WLS, so I can no longer put my heart through the yo-yo weight stuff ever again. I choose the RIGHT way so I can become as healthy as possible. I'm glad you have chosen the RIGHT way too. Hang in there my fellow bandster. Your gonna make it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

YOU WOMAN ARE AMAZING......... I love the support I get here...... And I am accepting the fact that I might not get it outside of my own home and other bandsters and I am going to be okay with that.