Sounds like alot of fears. No fret, we all have them. But it truly is a good decision. The wt. will come off, maybe not as fast as you would like, but it will. You will be pleased.

I just how I feel, just hope this is the right thing to do..........

Thanks for responding. There is a lot of fear, Fear of Loss, not just the weight, but other things as well. Fear that I will stay the same as I am now. I believe in my heart its the right thing to do. After so many years of fighting the fat its time to change. I will have no option not to and that seems like the only way I can achieve the weight loss. I have flip flop moments of ..yes I am doing the right thing and then I am not sure. I am sure I don't want to live with the weight anymore. That is one thing I do know. So this must be the right thing. As I haven't the will power to do it on my own. Sad to say. Thanks so much for listening to me rant.

It is not as bad as you think, I had one day where I realized I was mourning food! After that I was fine. You can eat the things you like, just not as much. I try new things all the time and my dh tries them also. It is a new way of life, a healthier way of life, but well worth it

I know how you feel

Oddly enough, I have moments of clarity and am fine with my decision to start a new lifestyle. I hope the clarity stays with me more than it has of late Thanks for your support. Its is greatly appreciated !

I know exactly how you are feeling, to grasp that you are choosing to not be able to eat (much) of your favorite foods....for the rest of your life is HUGE. For me beer and pizza will be the toughest things to miss, and it is definitely a grieving process. But the more I considered how truly sad I was about giving up the foods I love, the more clear it became what a good decision I was making.

If we had the long term ability (ie. discipline & will power) to loose weight and maintain it, we wouldn't be overweight. The band gives us a built in "reminder" to make better decisions and achieve our goals.

(now I will say that pizza, beer, and I did have a nice fare well party the day before I started my 2 week pre-op diet.........small pitcher of my fav Black Butte Porter, and 1/2 of a medium canadian bacon & sausage pizza, from Leonardos the best place in town, I was so full when I was done - and I accepted that with that "last supper", I was finally ok with being done!)

Fast forward 8 days post op, on full liquids only, for dinner tonight I had a 1/2 cup of cream if chicken soup - and it tasted good and I am full! Full still feels the same, but now I can achieve that with 150 calories instead of what 1600 or so. What a difference a few short weeks can make :-) down 25 pounds in that time also.

I know exactly how you are feeling, to grasp that you are choosing to not be able to eat (much) of your favorite foods....for the rest of your life is HUGE. For me beer and pizza will be the toughest things to miss, and it is definitely a grieving process. But the more I considered how truly sad I was about giving up the foods I love, the more clear it became what a good decision I was making.

If we had the long term ability (ie. discipline & will power) to loose weight and maintain it, we wouldn't be overweight. The band gives us a built in "reminder" to make better decisions and achieve our goals.

(now I will say that pizza, beer, and I did have a nice fare well party the day before I started my 2 week pre-op diet.........small pitcher of my fav Black Butte Porter, and 1/2 of a medium canadian bacon & sausage pizza, from Leonardos the best place in town, I was so full when I was done - and I accepted that with that "last supper", I was finally ok with being done!)

Fast forward 8 days post op, on full liquids only, for dinner tonight I had a 1/2 cup of cream if chicken soup - and it tasted good and I am full! Full still feels the same, but now I can achieve that with 150 calories instead of what 1600 or so. What a difference a few short weeks can make :-) down 25 pounds in that time also.

Glad to know I am not the only one, but as the days go by I feel more and more like this is the right decision. I am not a beer drinker, but wine. LOL...Congrats on the 25 down. I only had a week and 1/2 to prepare for pre opt diet. Mine is not just liquids...Liquids B/L...2 fruit servings and a WW or LC for dinner. Only liquids on Monday before surgery on Tues. Its all good. I know I will be happy with my decision, maybe not right away, but later

When people say "it's a tool" you need to really understand what that means. My band contributes to my weight loss about 15%. The rest of it is extreme diet and nutrition and very intense workouts. With that, I still only lose half of a pound a week. If you have a lot to lose, the weight will come off very quickly. But if you are like me and only have 50-60 lbs to lose....boy, is this process ever slow!

Im glad I paid 14K and had the surgery. Its an easy surgery. Lots of learning to do afterwards. Lots of throwing up, eating the wrong foods and sticking to diets. THAT part is a lot harder than you realize. Wish you the best

When people say "it's a tool" you need to really understand what that means. My band contributes to my weight loss about 15%. The rest of it is extreme diet and nutrition and very intense workouts. With that, I still only lose half of a pound a week. If you have a lot to lose, the weight will come off very quickly. But if you are like me and only have 50-60 lbs to lose....boy, is this process ever slow!

Im glad I paid 14K and had the surgery. Its an easy surgery. Lots of learning to do afterwards. Lots of throwing up, eating the wrong foods and sticking to diets. THAT part is a lot harder than you realize. Wish you the best

Thanks so much Kelly..After reading the good and bad I am understanding more about it. I am glad to know that you are happy with your success and have done well, not without hardships. Nobody every said life was easy, I guess theres a reason why no one ever said that..LOL. Thanks again and good luck in your continued journey.