First you have to ask yourself why did you get the surgery done. Was it to please you or please others. Also what may really help you is to go to the support group of the hospital you had the surgery from and speak with other bandsters that is going through some of the things you have experienced.

Trust and believe I know where your coming from, you have to and I mean you have to learn to LOVE YOURSELF.......THAT IS A MUST...... When you begain feeling confident believe me I'm a female and I will tell you, we females love a confident man. Maybe slowly you have to build up to it.

You have to preoccupy your mind with others things that you enjoy. If you know your not putting 100% into your weight-loss, than your not going to get 100% back. There must other things to do that you may enjoy that could be athletic type other than going to the gym.. How about swimming, roller-skating, long walks with your ipod.

Take one meal at a time, Get though one meal at a time. Preplan your meals ahead also. Such as protein shakes with any fruit, cinnamin. Mash potiatoes, oatmeal, cream of wheat, boil eggs, Whole wheat spagehtti with lean ground beef to make meatballs, Tuna melts (open face and whole bread). These are some examples.

Remember the women will come, focus on YOU first, YOU are so important. And Congradiulations you have lost weight you just have to get your focus back.

Good luck!

Girl .. I was just like you . You gotta stop feeling sorry for yourself and LIVE !!! You shouldnt really be concerned with a man not loving you because you are big you should be concernd that he's not going to want to deal with the depression issues you have. I know this because I had to over come ALOT to get where i am today and it all dwindels down too.. stop feeling so ******* sorry for myself.

Pot doesnt help either . You are just making yourself more depressed. Get up off the couch and go outside !

Im saying these things to save your life not to be mean. If you dont care about yourself why the hell would should anyone else ?

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I agree with Shonette, you have to love yourself before you consider getting another person in your life! Embrace what you have done with getting the lapband, charge ahead with it! You sound young, you have so much to experience and now that the weight is leaving you....you can!!! Get out there & love the life God has blessed you with!