So day 4 wasn't as bad as I've read. Although I did get a surprise. I don't know why I never thought about it before but I was to focused I guess. My 10 year old daughter asked my why and what exactly am I getting done. I felt so bad because with all the research and discussions my husband and I have had I didn't include her in what was happening and why.

So I pondered for a minute and said you know what I am sorry I didn't explain this sooner and I should have it's not a secret I was trying to keep from you. So I explained what would happen with the surgery and how I would be feeling when I get home. Then I asked her if she understood why I was doing it. She said ya to loose weight.

I backed her up and said yes that is one reason but not the top reason. First loosing the weight would help me be healthier and essentially live longer because I am living a healthier lifestyle. Second I want to be able to do things other parents do with their kids. Like sports or hiking or getting on a ride at the park and not be afraid. And yes I do want to look good for myself.

She said she understood and she would help me after surgery to get walking and not just sit there. Also she said she would help when I got back to the eating stage with picking things to eat. I have to admit that even though I have been a yo-yo dieter my daughter has always been a veggie and meat person. Candy is low on her list of what she would ask for and she hates soda. I know that will change but with me changing I can help her choose healthy when she hits the teenage years. Also show her a different outlet than food if she is bored, stressed, sad, happy or mad.

How did everyone else do with talking to their kids?

~Kris