Thanks for sharing. I had some negative thoughts the other day too. Mostly about my band and stress at work. It does help to know that I am not alone and if I take anything from this site it is that. WE are not ALONE.

All the best!

Sounds like your job is getting to you! Sorry to hear that. I would advise you to try to work things out with your husband if you can. I feel that sometimes people give up too easy. Try to find an outlet be it church, friends or whatever. Sometimes the band puts you on an emotional roller coaster for sure. Hang in there and keep your chin up. Take care.

I really do appreciate everyone's response. It does help to know that you are not the only person who is feeling a certain way about your life. I do feel like having this band increases my emotional ups and downs at times. I want to succeed in my weight lost so band and it does become a little stressful when things don't happen the way I want them to. I often feel like there is never enough time in my day to do all the things I would like to. That alone causes some of my frustation when things don't get accomplished. I really have to find some quiet time for myself if it's no more than 30 minutes! Again, thanks.

Shonette:

I think around here (in the cold NOrth) we have named February the most depressing time of year! Its cold, we only get about 8 hours of sunlight a day. Christmas bills and such are weighing us done, tax season.. all of it. To be banded in January and face February now, the busiest time for me at work... I have had to make the decision to take care of myself, no matter what else happens. It will fall in to place.

I used to be the kind of gal that swept the floor everyday, cleaned the entire house every week and had to be the first one to the office. Now, I sweep the floor a couple of times a week, spot clean the house and do ONE room every week and waltz in to work AFTER Ive done my exercise for the day. I know this may not be possible for you but I just wanted to let you know that some things can afford to spare your time FOR YOU! GOOD LUCK! HANG IN THERE!

Shonnette, It is time to put yourself first. You are worth it! I have had to tell myself that after running my 4 children to all of their winter sports. I informed them that we are going to forgo the spring sports and go as a family to the Y instead so I can take care of me. They have been very supportive. I think we give so much to everyone else that it is hard to relearn that behavior to take care of ourselves and allow us to endulged in putting ourselves first. The way I figure it...the healthier I am the better it will be for my entire family. I do agree that there is a lot of redefining relationships in the process. We redefine our relationship with food and with others. I think we could all learn a little bit from men....it is true that most do not have a problem putting themselves first. Good luck and much success!

I really do appreciate all of the advice to put myself first. I do find myself getting upset with my family for not doing things they should be doing. Instead of me holding each of them accountable for their own actions, I do things myself and I become very angry the entire time I am doing whatever it is. I need to redefine my roles and responsibility with my love ones and make them accountable for their own actions and responsibilities in the house.

Dadkins8: you are so correct when you stated men have no problem with putting themselves first. My husband is the perfect example of doing that very well!

Hey girl!!!! I thought I was the ONLY one going through some serious moments right now. I am doing okay. I came off of here for a little while because i was starting to compare my self to others weightloss again. And I need to get my head in the game after all the holidays. My job is stressing me out completely but by the grace of God at least I still have one. I feel sometimes I put so much pressure on my self its unreal. I am doing good again with the weightloss (at least I think) I am 3 months out andI have lost the little I gained at xmas and a little more. I will get weighed actually tomorrow at my 3 month followup. So pray for me girl!!! I will keep you posted. I will personal message you tommorrow with what else is going on in my life. promise! Until then keep your head up and remember we all are in this lapband struggle together. Email me if you need to chat (whenever). I have felt like you feel in your marriage and I am dealing with a husband who really doesnt beleive I should have went to this for help. But maybe we can be each others moral support. just let me know. Dee