I think everyone has pre-op jitters!! Just re-lax and everything will be fine! Think back to things that make you and your husband happy..plan some of those things..if it is movies great!! It could be that you take long walks together. I live near the beach so that is one of things we do, we also live near a really beautiful park so we walk thru there..a botanical garden..I think you are catching on..just beautiful things for us to do together outside. Then we have a beautiful (handsome) 3 yr old son who I can finally chase all day..so now I we spend all day outside in the yard playing, swimming or just doing anything we can think of.

I know what you mean about date nights and meeting up with friends usually used to be "for dinner"...it is hard but you can be creative as well as even though you get banded that doesn't mean you don't eat again...you just chose more wisely!!

Clothes fitting..well once I found the right size which I was shocked to find out I was actually a size 6..never thought I would get that small but I am and never felt better!! Anyway, once I found the right size..all my clothes fit great!! As I losing weight some things fit and some didn't but none were ever too tight anymore!!

The chances of not surviving are so slim it is incredible!! Believe in your surgeon and have faith...with faith all with be right!!

take care!

Wow you said it all pretty much! I agree with everything @ finallyincontrol, but to you - justplaintired - I understand what you are feeling. I went through the same feelings and thoughts myself not that long ago. I almost canceled out the night before surgery. But I didn't and I am glad. I already lost 30 lbs. and I am only 2 wks. post op. Everything will work itself out. You will figure it all out as you go along. Trust me. It will all make sense to you eventually. Trial and error. But with the lapband as your tool - you have no choice but to lose the wt. if you obey the rules. There is plenty food choices you can eat and enjoy. Just smaller portions. After a while, you don't seem to notice or mind. I find myself thinking less about food as I did before. The key is to keep busy. And exercise. Keep your mind occupied. Good luck and keep us posted. I will sure be thinking about you on the day of your surgery. Take care.

Being a chronic worrier myself, I too felt like you did. BUT....save your worrying for consentrating on how you are going to change your life and know in your heart that you will be better off and enjoy life much better. And you WILL be happier! It is a fight for all of us and we all have to stick with it. I know I have my demons and I have to fight them. I continue praying for myself and all of the other bandsters as well. I know we all have a difficult road a head of us, but I also know that we will be so grateful and fulfilled in joy, comfort, and happiness when we reach our goal. Best wishes to you. You WILL make it my dear! Don't worry. It truly is a waste. Waiting for your surgery, research different recipies, research how to cook differently, research good snacks to replace the bad snacks, pick up a new hobby. Best Wishes for continued success! Signed, a bandster much like yourself.

Best Wishes! I was just banded on January 27. I was absolutely scared to death. It has been a breeze. Looking back I have to ask myself why I was so worried. I was up walking 1 hr. after I returned to my room. The only pain medication I had was right before I walked for the first time. It is as simple as a walk in the park. I had my gallbladder removed and it is much easier than that. I have lost 10 lb. in 5 days and I feel great. Good Luck!

I was worried too, thats just normal! Now I think why didnt I do this sooner! I am not a good dieter, rule-follower or exerciser but the weight has slowly fallen off. I still go out to dinner a lot and I take food home and eat it for days! A restaurant sized meal is 4 to 6 times what I can eat!My husband says I am a cheap date. I did get a wrinkly weird lower gut but it looks great in clothes and I greatly prefer it to the big gut that was bursting a size 16...My size 8 jeans are getting loose and this has actually been easy once the restriction was nice and snug like I needed! Hang in there!

It is SOOOOOO worth it! It's surgery so everyone gets nervous. The only thing I would change is I would have done it sooner. My life is so much better now. It has its ups and downs but every bit is worth it for the results I have gotten.