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To band or not to band...

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sophinator

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I have been sitting here reading posts about people wondering who to tell...who not to tell....people with doubt over whether to get the band or not. Two questions I've asked myself numerous times over the last few months. I go from being excited about the prospect of doing something to help myself and my self esteem to being scared to death and wondering what the heck am I thinking!

I am a person who very rarely spends money on herself or does things just for me. I often think of others before I think of myself...not just because I am a caring person but because I have never been taught to put myself first. When sitting tonight thinking to myself what on earth am I doing? I came to the conclusion many people go out and have boob jobs and say this is for my self esteem, I just never felt good about myself before...or they have a face lift to take away the lines that their life has given them to make themselves feel younger. HUNDREDS of people do this each year and people don't bat an eye about it. I want to have a surgery that will make my life better because it will extend my life. It will help lower my blood pressure, colesterol, and chances for diabetes. Why oh why am I thinking twice. This is not an elective surgery (not that there's anything wrong with those don't get me wrong...feel we all deserve our own choices) but at this point is a much needed intervention between me and my stomach! So...without looking back I will move forward with my decision knowing I am doing what I know to be better for myself and my quality of life. As far as who to tell and who not to tell ...for now that will be on a need to know basis...we'll see if I change my mind later!:)

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I was banded on Oct 26th and I am still wondering if I made the right decision at times.

But I was taking insulin and HBP meds and now neither.

I had tried to loose on my own but not succesfully or for long. Now down 25 lbs so far.

I have a 14 yr old and I want to see my grandchildren so yes it was the right choice for me.

We all have our doubts but think about the gift you give all who love you just by being there with them longer.

Ultimately you are doing something for them.

Good luck to you whatever you choose to do.

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I am scheduled to be banded the 30th of this month. Im still nervous and thinking, "has it really come to this." The end of every episode I have with myself it results to "yes its time." I feel like because Im in my late 20's that I should just be able to excersise and eat right and watch the weight come off. In my past it took a very long time but it did and I kept tryin threw the plateaus but I knew in my heart that my metabolism was fighting me. It was easy for me to lose the drive and motivation when my body was letting me down.

After making my decision I sat down and wrote everything in my head on paper of why I want this surgery. What I see when I look in the mirror, the hardships my weight has put on me physically (from getting dressed, my heigene, my marriage, my activities with my daughters, etc) to mentally (no self esteem, uncomfortable in my own skin, lack of self respect, no confidence) and anytime I wonder "what am i thinking" I re-read the painful thoughts I wrote out.

I hope you make the decision thats best for you and live with no regrets as much as I hope to do the same. I truely believe after the recovery period, i will be happy with the surgery. Im such a wuss tho so reading the recovery stories scares me =/

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I went back and forth for a couple of years and now I am so glad I did it. I was banded 9/30/2010. I am down 35 pounds. It's been a slow weight decline, but I already feel so much better. I took Thursday and Friday off of work, had no recovery problems, and back to work on Monday. If you have any questions, feel free to message me. Or, go to a couple surgeon seminars to find out more in depth answers. It was the right choice for me. Good luck in your journey!

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Sophinator;

I think everyone is scared! Scared of a major surgery and the risks but scared to change the one constant realtionship we've all had too!!! That little fling with food and break-up with exercise!

It is scarey, it is serious but the thing is - YOU DESERVE IT!

You will find allot of women on here are Moms, teachers, nurses, along with many many more hats and continue to give give give to everyone surrounding them. I didnt take care of myself at all until the day I quit nursing. (NOT KNOCKING ANYONE) I was so exhausted emotionally from taking care of everyone else and physically too from those 12 hour shifts 6 days a week that there was nothing left for me. Not even enough energy to cook a decent dinner once in a blue moon.

YOU DESERVE a little TLC too!

GOOD LUCK!

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Thank you everyone...I have decided to have the surgery. I made that decision a long time ago but the doubts creep in as it gets closer and closer. I am just waiting for my date...have everything done. EdmontonGal you hit the nail on the head...it is the surgery that scares me more than anything. I have two young children and a whole life to live and that concerns me...but my health in those years concerns me too as it will decline if I don't do something. I am not worried about my relationship with the 'beloved food'. However, I know that that will be a HUGE adjustment...I am ready! I am a teacher, a mother and a wife...I need to be healthy!!!

Thanks for all your support...I needed it!! Best of luck to all of you!!

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