Thanks I needed to hear that!!!!

I'm glad I could help! So important to have positive reinforcement.

It will be that way for awhile, and then you will realize that it is done for them as well, they will have YOU for a lot longer, the children will know you have preserved your health by being leaner and adding years to your life. For every thirty minutes of exercise you do you add two days to your life, did you know that? Every thing I did for MYSELF and I was so selfish in the beginning. I think I had to have that attitude to get on with it and get through it, too! But all that I did for me, reflected towards my family and my loved ones. My husband finally told me the other day "You look good honey, you look SOOOO good!" I was on top of the roof, so even tho I did do this for me, I get nothing from me that counts anymore than something from them. God bless you and I wish you well on your surgery and your journey. 16 mos out and counting.

Janet,

There opinion & what they think of me matters very very much, but I have to learn to put my needs as a priority so I don't get off track. Congrats to you & I look forward tot he day that I can say 16 months out & counting!

I agree with you. I think that sometimes as women we play so many roles in our lives. We are wives, mothers, sisters, daughters, friend, and coworkers. We get pulled in so many different directions and put everyone elses needs first. As we begin this journey, we need to learn how to put ourselves first and make "ourselves" a priority to experience success. This is something that is so new to many of us. I wish you much success as you begin this journey. I hope you enjoy it as much as I have!

Wow, I needed to hear that too :-) I am kinda nervous, but look forward to my banding this Nov. I am excited for you, and I am looking for support from people who are going through this journey as well!

It's your time now BRINA913. Time to put your self first, and your family will benefit more from it. Good Luck

Well said BRINA13!!! best of luck and we will be here for you.

I've never thought of it that way. I am always worried to put myself first, afraid of making someone else think bad of me. BUT...you are absolutely correct, we deserve to be a little selfish when it comes to loving ourselves, because nobody can love us as we love ourselves. I like that! And I don't feel right now that I love myself. So I'm going to try and be a little easier on my expectation of me and try to tell myself it's okay to not look perfect. I think that when I start loving me, I'll start to see more beauty on the in and outside.

Thanks for the inspiration....

Thanks so much all of you for the kind words & well wishes! We are all in this together & we need to be a united front so that we can all get through this together. I am happy to know that my words have inspired & motivated some of you to finally realize that we are the most important thing in our families lives. That is why it is so iportant for us to come first...if we are unhealthy how can we benefit our families.

Hello there Bri! Loved your posts!! I chatted with you last night in the chat room. Your surgery's 10/18, right? Mine is Friday, 10/22...and I also have 3 childern that help make it challenging to put me first...for the better of them, my huband, and myself. Let's keep in touch so we can jurney together, ok?

Not a problem Jan22....I will add you as a friend! I will try to update my blog this week after surgery as much as possible! If we don't speak Good Luck to you!