You sound like me. Things are going slow for me. I've been banded 2 months and i've been bouncing around the same 5 pounds. But i got my 2nd fill last week and WHAT A DIFFERENCE. Now i have restriction. I was very sore too in the beginning, i couldnt sleep very well, i'd get up in the middle of the night and cry because of the pain especially to my back. But it took about a month to get back to normal. Now i have to learn not to cheat on my band. i have to stop eating 'sliders' as in chips, pie, shakes....it's all up to me now. the first fill did nothing for me. nothing. but the 2nd one is helping a lot. Please don't get discouraged, it will get better. I was where you are and now i'm back to normal.

I went back in my blogs to two weeks post op and said a lot of the same things (well not the sex part -- not married or boyfriend so that one doesn't count). But the rest is pretty standard. My responses were that in a way you are mourning the loss of the lifestyle you had. A lifestyle that was not healthy.

Sex is only a couple weeks away. Weight loss will come -- exercise, drink water and eat according to plan. Patience is the key (I know lots of days I don't have patience, but I'm learning it!).

Your wounds will feel better day after day. Have you seen the surgeon for your post op? They will check them to make sure they are ok, but you'll be fine. Soon enough you'll be enjoying life a little more and as you lose inches and your clothes don't fit you'll be really excited! It doesn't take long.

I think almost all of us have to go through the 'what have I done', usually during Bandster Hell, which is where you are now. Remember the first 6 weeks are just for healing, not WL. Have realistic expectations and know that the restriction will help with fills and that the wounds will heal. I expected to get good restriction by the holidays and I was banded the end of April...it happened in Sept., but like I said, realistic expectations. Hang in there...Bandster hell sucks, but it ends! -BG

My sister refers to it as my dwelling period. I'm not usually one to doubt myself. I make a decision and go balls to the wall. But week 3 I cried everyday. I was so angry. I couldn't believe that I did this to myself and I wanted it done with.

I'm still not losing but hopefully that changes with my first fill Monday. I lost for my first three weeks and the last two I succeed in .6. It's not a gain and it's keeping me under 300.

My first few weeks...I felt "sad" and also felt why did I do this? You will go over this period. You really will one day feel better...it does take time. Be patience with yourself.