So...some of you out there not losing the weight as fast as you hoped after the surgery and several fills?

Feeling like a failure?

Given up and started eating under your old habits? Gobbling up your favorite foods and binge eating? Ice cream in the fridge or Oreos in the pantry? Soda even in the house? Maybe you stopped getting fills and enjoy being able to eat what you want with light restriction

I thought you might be out there...silently struggling...thinking all is well on your part, but the banding support system or LAP-BAND® itself is to blame and has failed you.

Sure, let's blame the fills or the people who sold us on this program. Maybe even your doctor or friends. They should of convinced you to go the gastric bypass route for better results.

Let's be honest with one another. No one is going to know. Just you and the words on the screen. Ask yourself these questions.

You following your recommended diet? That's right...Remember....Protein shakes and healthy meals in between. Smaller portions?

No bad high carb foods, eliminating potato chips, ice cream, milk shakes, cheeseburgers, french fries, pizza, Chinese food, spagetti and fatty Mexican food?

You just made a funny face. Uh-oh. You eating fast food? How many times a week are you eating out? No, you can't have it both ways. Answer the question.

Going to the gym each morning or after work? We are talking real workouts 3-5 days a week. Not just walking around the track once then saying goodbye. You know... real goals and eventually even weights? Seeking help from gym staff to get you started.

No, you don't have time for that kind of thing? Just going to eat well and lose it without excercise? Oh...okay.

Family buying you food you can't eat if you want to lose weight? Eating it anyway? Just too hard to cook for kids and eat healthy?

Spouse doesn't want you to succeed?

Or perhaps you do not want to succeed because you are afraid of being faithful if skinny? Or how it might make your spouse feel because they are not changing their habits?

Just tired of being on a diet? Can't find motivation? Lack of energy? Depressed because others know you are not losing the weight after surgery?

So the final question...why are you finding ways to sabotage your success?

You knew what this surgery was about. Now it's time for you to do your part.

You are not a miracle person who can lose weight by eating whatever you want and not excercising. You have to put your effort in if you want to lose the weight. It takes you.

Look at your lifestyle and make changes.

THIS IS NOT A DIET.

A diet is something you do for a little while then stop.

This is a lifestyle change.This is how you will live the rest of your life to be around healthy and strong. So, set the example for your family and children.

Quit blaming others or yourself. It's time to be honest. Face facts.

If this is not working for you...are you really working for it?

PS: I do not have it figured out. I am struggling. I am failing. I am making poor choices that stack up to cause negative outcomes in weight loss. Most of these questions are to myself, and I know why things have not been working for me.

However I know that if I make enough positive choices back to back, they are going to add up to weight loss.

I am very grateful for the medical staff who don't give up on me. Thanks to them and a powerful support group tonight, I think I am getting back on track.

Feel like joining me if you are in the same place?