Some people, especially those really close to us, have a hard time adjusting to the changes we are making physically, emotionally, mentally. Stick with your plan; you are doing great! If you have access to a psychologist at your surgeon's office, spend some time talking to them about issues with your hubby and ways to overcome them. I've seen lots of posts about this. I'm single, so I can't help, but you are in my prayers! Congrats again on your success so far.

Very well put shonette . . . it takes work, but so worthwhile. I am in week 3 post op and just got my first compliment at work today . .. it felt so good! I hope your husband catches on that he can work WITH you on this - not against you. Best wishes!

I have similar problems with my would be hubby. It's beend 5 months since my surgery and he is getting better about it. He even workouts with me, most times. It is an adjustment and he has to be reassured that you only have eyes for him (he he)

Congrats on your progress.

Thanks so much for the encouraging words. It is really hurtful not to have the ones you love to nderstand how important this whole process is being banded. I've spent over half of my life being an over weight person. For the first time in a long time I feel like there is really hope for me. It's so funny becasue he just called me at work wanting to go eat dinner. He always want to take me out to eat! I don't want to eat for the first time in a long time.

Shonette, you go girl! You are doing what is best for you and that is the way it should be. Perhaps you husband thinks you will leave him when you get to your goal and he is scared? Have you discussed this with him? I am so lucky my husband is right by my side through everything. Isn't it amazing that you now know when you are full? I never did. As a "reward" I would stuff my face with a huge bowl, or 2, of pasta or french fries. Tonights dinner was 5 large shrimp. Go figure. We all know we have a long journey, but if you need support you have it here. We are all in this together and we all inspire eachother to stay on track and get it done. Keep up the good work.

Yup!!! I went threw the same thing when my hubby got the Gastric with ME!! and he went threw the same with me and my LB...Just keep on doing wut you r doing..All that DRAMA!!! will fade. Best of luck and keep Blogging.

Shonette, keep on doing wut your doing!! everything else will fall in it's place...Best of luck

I really do appreciate everyone's support and advice on the different ways to relate to my husband. One of the most unfortunate issues in my marriage is effective communication. My job is to talk and listen to others issues and concerns all day long. That comes very natural for me, but he really doesn’t communicate very well when it comes to expressing his feels. Therefore, I try very hard not to take a lot of what he says to me personal. However, that can be a down fall for us at times. However, I do know with prayer things can and will work out for my good. Again, I really feel blessed to be apart of this site. Today at my first post op. visit my doctor was very proud of my success.