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We all have our own reasons for doing this surgery. If you want to keep it a secret, then do so. I told everyone that would listen because I'm so proud to finally take charge of my weight. I wish you all the luck and success and you do what is best for YOU! Best wishes!

Hello wecandoit .You tell those you want to know, that's your choice to make.. Its' your life and what others think I say the hake with them they are not living in your body and your head.. Your mother in time you may tell, I knew mine would not understand but she also knows me, once I have made my mine to do somthing she knows I have done alot of research on this matter. And she was on board with it and supports me now. Yours may too. And for taking the easy way out, BAH HUMBUG. It's not... Anyone that has weight lose surgery, far as am concern are some of the bravest people I know. And we are strong to make a huge life change as we did.. Lap band is only a tool, and with any tool we have to learn how to operate this tool.. Now it's time for you to be happy inside and out.. GOOD LUCK TO YOU..

Thank you so much. I thought about it more and more last night, and all of your comments help!

Wecandoit..I have been banded now for 7 months and still only 3 people know about it besides my doctors. I plan to keep it that way. I don't lie to anyone who asks me how I am losing weight...I eat protein first, small portions, I don't drink with my meals, I walk, work out in my pool and am aware of what I am eating. No one has ever asked me if I had lap band..one did ask if I had plastic surgery so I did honestly say No. If someone flat out asked if I had lap band surgery I would tell them yes but not until then. I didn't want negative feed back or people judging me so I chose to not tell anyone. I have done extemely well and you would think I would want to shout it out but still it is my business. Everyone has to do what makes them feel comfortable.

I feel the same way. I was just banded on 7/02/10 and I have only told one of my friends. I only told my mom one day before the surgery because of the "why" questions. I had been talking about it with my sister n law and strangly she asked yesterday did I have the procedure done. I did not say yest or no but I know that I will be telling her. We are like best friends. Anywho, do what makes you feel right. Good Luck

I had no intention of telling anyone about my lap-band surgery, but in October I was diagnosed with breast cancer and had to have a mastectomy. I was afraid that if I didn't tell them and I started to lose weight, everyone would think I was dying from cancer. So, I told my co-workers first and they were all so supportive. Then I told friends and family who were also supportive. Like you, I didn't want people to think this was the easy way out. But it is probably one of the hardest things you will do for yourself. Don't worry what people will think. This is your life and your future - good health and happiness is yours for the taking. Jump in with both feet - let everyone else work out their own problems, you work on yourself. Good luck.

Well, I did not hide mine surgery from anyone....and now, it is biting me in the butt. People watch everything I eat. At work, I hear things like, "Are you supposed to be eating that?" I'm always under scrutiny. I follow food guidelines very closely (haven't even tried bread, rice or pasta) but sometimes I may decide to eat something like fried fish and the crowd goes wild!!! My mother and older people in my family make remarks about "losing weight the old fashioned way". If cutting back and excercising was truly a one fit for all then most would not be overweight right? Besides, we still have to do our part with the band. Another thing, people often make the rude/nasty/thoughtless remarks when they are ignorant. I often bounce back by offereing to take them to a weightloss seminar. That shuts them up....but it is not a good feeling to feel like you have to defend your surgery decision All of the time.

Well I am very much like you, an active person who eats like a bird. Follow your heart and don't feel bad about deciding not to tell whomever/whoever. Your surgery will be here soon!

I feel the same way. I was just banded on 7/02/10 and I have only told one of my friends. I only told my mom one day before the surgery because of the "why" questions. I had been talking about it with my sister n law and strangly she asked yesterday did I have the procedure done. I did not say yest or no but I know that I will be telling her. We are like best friends. Anywho, do what makes you feel right. Good Luck

Maybe you mom told her? My mom did a good job of informing the other family members.

It is up to you who you want to share this with. I have only told a select few and when i am ready i will tell more. I do think it is a good idea only because people tend to think you should be loosing weight more quickly and they dont understand it is a slow process and a tool to help you and that you still have to work on it. Best of luck to you on your journey.

My experience is that I was banded 6.24.10 and have lost 24 lbs since I started the pre-op diet 6.5.10. I decided to tell the folks at work that I am around constantly. I figured they would have the most opportunity and be most interested in asking questions. Fortunately they were all supportive. I tell them "I'm not advertising it, but I'm telling you because we're close and I don't intend to lie about it." They may or may not have told others - I don't really care. A couple of them have already started looking into Lapband surgery for themselves now though so I hope it helps them! My family is a different story. They are very judgmental and gossip abounds. My 80 year old mother would love to keep a secret but she's not capable these days so I've chosen to not tell her either. I don't see them often, so when Thanksgiving comes around they will be surprised!! We just had 2 family events - one birthday and a July 4th celebration that I didn't attend. I told them I was under the weather but would be fine. My husband and son know and are extremely supportive. When they are questioned they say I'll be fine and that I don't want to talk about it. It's going ok so far and I wouldn't change a thing if I had it do over.

I agree with everyone else - it's your choice and do what is best for you. This is one step you are taking to take care of YOURSELF so don't worry about others' feelings or wants. Put yourself first. This is major and you are going to do great!! I wish you the best of success!!