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jmunks2000

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So I went out of town with some of my sisters, my mom, my children, and my nieces and nephews this past weekend. I didn't realize how much our daily schedule centered around food until now. The activities at the ranch could barely be completed because many minds drifted to the next meal and menus. Well now I do.

Because I had just had a fill Thursday, my diet was liquid and then mushies this weekend. I didn't mind cause I'm used to the routine and plus, I was barely hungry. I think I found my sweet spot. :thumbup:

Well my family indulged in making fun of every food choice I made. My mother criticized me for not eating things like bread, pasta, and rice. Don't get me wrong, I've gone out to eat with them before like at habachi grills and they get a kick out of me not being able to eat rice. My family loves rice. I remember a time when I cooked a pot of rice everyday. Rice is a big deal in this family. But deleting these carbs has helped me lose weight before the surgery and has stopped the inflammation from arthritis. As a matter of fact, I haven't tried to eat it nor do I intend to. So I'm good! The ridicule seemed magnified this weekend more so than usual. I guess it was because we were together day and night as they could zoom in on me more than when we're are at restaurants and family gatherings.

I have actually been trying to convince my mother to have the surgery.

Anyway, her verbal spill the whole weekend went like this: "Oh no, I am not gonna be denied my favorite foods. You're eating like a bird.....Are you really satisfied with that pinch of tuna and lettuce?" She even went to a local Dairy Queen and returned to the ranch to flaunt her banana split in front of me. I told her several times that I can eat what I want but I choose to eat what I eat.

I am not upset. I have my eyes on the prize. I am just surprised that the situations described in my LAP-BAND® book are slowly but surely happening.

At the end of my trip, my mother praised me for not giving in to her taunts and said she was hitting the gym first thing Monday morning because she wants to look like an older sister and not a mother (shallow, right?) Anyway, she did go to the gym yesterday.

As for the band, she is right, the band is not for her right now because she doesn't want to be restricted. She likes being able to eat whatever, whenever, and how much of whatever anytime. She would prolly force food even after satiety is reached if she had the band. I just have to wait for her to be ready.

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GREAT post...and VERY insightful!!! I became VERY aware of how much our family events revolve around food and what 'food pushers' we all are (my four siblings are all obese), but I also realize that others can be jealous that you're taking control of something that they aren't ready to yet. Be the example...you're doing great! -BG

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Way to go on recognizing the triggers, and events and handling them so well! You used the trip to your advantage to gain strength, motivation and resolve. Awesome!

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You have some amazing strength! That had to be tough and yet you persevered. My family similarly revolves around food and meals, but I'm so darn fortunate because they do make every effort to accommodate and support me. Sounds like you are starting to win your mom over! Go you!!

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Thanks everyone. I didn't realize until after read your comments about how strong I'd become. The renewing of one's mind is a powerful thing.

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I have not even told my family yet as I know the teasing and "pokes"will be there. I am glad to not be alone with a family of eaters. Not to mention the ones (other sister in laws) who have always been thin and now comment on how they have and they realize others have problems, i feel like punching them. Oh well, i will do this my way and it is none of their business anyhow!

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Wow, I hope that I have the will power and strength that you have if I do decide to have the lap band. I too, have not told any of my family except my mom, dad, and younger brother. I know that they will all be very supportive and not poke fun or taunt me with food. Not sure how the rest of my family will react, but it doesn't matter because I'm doing this for me and not them. Keep up the excellent work!!!

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