:biggrin:WELL I ASKED FOR IT AND I GOT IT, I HAD COMPLAINED TO MY NURSE AND SHE TOLD MY DR. I WANTED MORE FILL THIS TIME! WELL I GOT IT, AND IT IS TIGHT! I WOULD THINK THAT I WOULD BE DROPPING THE LBS, BUT I AM NOT. YET ANYWAY.

EASTER BLEW A WHOLE IN MY DIET STRATEGY. A LITTLE TASTE OF THIS AND A LITTLE TASTE OF THAT, ONE CHOCOLATE EASTER EGG, THEN ANOTHER, THEN CANDY WITH THE GRANDBABIES, THEN A LITTLE SODA, WHICH I HAVE NOT TOUCHED IN 8 MOS, WHAT GOT INTO ME? WTH WAS I THINKING? I DO HATE TO GET OFF A GOOD PLAN WHEN IT IS WORKING. BUT YOU KNOW WHAT? LIFE HAPPENS! I HAVE ABOUT DECIDED NOT TO WEIGH EVERY DAY, (BUT I CAN'T HELP MYSELF) I AM ADDICTED TO THAT PRACTICE. I AM NOT GOING TO GET CAUGHT UP IN THE RESULTS THOUGH. I HAVE BEEN HOLDING FLUIDS, CAUSE MY FEET HAVE BEEN SWELLED THAT PAST FEW DAYS AND I HAVE BEEN GETTING IN MORE WATER AND WENT TO THE GYM TODAY FOR EXERCISE, WHICH I HAVE SLACKED ON TOO, IT SEEMS LATELY THERE IS NOT ENOUGH TIME IN THE DAY FOR "ME":angry: AND I AM NOT HAPPY ABOUT THAT. WORK, TAKING CARE OF MY MOM, (SHE IS ALZHEIMERS AND JUST PUT IN AN ASSISTED LIVING WHICH IS VERY POSH AND SHE IS COMPLAINING:ohmy:WHAT TO DO? I SPEND LOTS OF TIME THERE, I WANT TO RUN BY SEE HER AND THEN HIT THE GYM, SHE WANTS ME TO STAY, SHE IS 79 YEARS OLD, SO I STAY. I HAVE LOST TWO REALLY SWEET FRIENDS TO HEART ATTACKS IN THE PAST THREE WEEKS, AGE 56 AND 62! TOO YOUNG! YOU THINK WE HAVE BEEN EATING RIGHT? NO WAY, ALL OUR LIVES WE HAVE NOT, AND NOW WE ARE DOING SOMETHING ABOUT IT, AND WE MUST KEEP UP THE EFFORTS AND USE THIS TOOL, THE LAPBAND TO ITS BEST POTENTIAL TO HELP US STAY ALIVE AND LIVE OUR LIVES TO THE FULLEST. AND JUST THIS PAST MONDAY, A 33 YEAR OLD GIRL I HAVE KNOWN HER WHOLE LIFE HAS PASSED AWAY FROM CANCER! HER FUNERAL IS THIS COMING SATURDAY. I DON'T WANT TO EAT OR DO ANYTHING, I THINK THAT COULD BE PART OF MY PROBLEM, I AM NOT EATING ENOUGH, THE DESIRE FOR FOOD IS NOT HERE, I DON'T WANT TO COOK ANYTHING, I AM GRIEVING AND WANT TO BE SICK, I DON'T WANT TO PUT FORTH THE EFFORT AS I DID BEFORE BECAUSE MY HAPPINESS LEVEL IS AT AN ALL TIME LOW. I AM STILL TRYING AND I WILLGET BACK ON TRACK, I JUST HAVE TO HAVE SOME TIME NOW. A LITTLE BREAK. DO YOU EVER GET LIKE THIS ANYONE? I FEEL LIKE I AM GETTING BEHIND IN MY WEIGHT LOSS AND NOT KEEPING UP LIKE OTHERS ON HERE ARE ALTHOUGH I HAVE NEVER GAINED AT A WEIGH IN SINCE MY SURGERY, MY LOSS IS SLOWING DOWN TO 3-4 LBS PER MONTH.:thumbup: I SO WANT THAT OTHER 23-24 LBS BY JULY! ANY SUGGESTIONS ON HOW TO GET A JUMP AND GET IT GOING DOWN AGAIN TO MORE PER MONTH? HAPPY TO HEAR FROM YOU!

Hugs! You have a lot on your plate. Of course, I mean that figuratively, not literally. LOL The great thing about this band is that even when we can't work the program perfectly, it helps us enough so that at least we don't gain and usually still lose a little.

The only suggestion I have is that if you can exercise before seeing your mom instead of after, that would probably help. I know its hard to put yourself first. I struggle w/this a bit. The kids don't always want to come to Jazzercise w/me, but I force them to go anyway (they have childcare). And, as I'm signing them up for summer activities, I feel a tad bit selfish not picking anything that conflicts w/my Jazzercise (even though there is stuff I know they would really like). But, I have to remind myself that I HAVE to start making my health a priority and, for me, regular exercise has to be part of that. Its best for me, but its also best for my family.

I am also trying to let go of the idea that I have to 'keep up' with everyone else who got their band at the same time as me. The reality is that we have all the time in the world to lose this weight. It doesn't have to be 10 pounds per month every month or whatever other fantasy we all had in mind when we got our bands. If we are creating habits to keep losing until we get to goal and keeping it off once we reach goal, then we have succeeded. It really doesn't matter how long it takes because, if we get those habits in place, the weightloss will stay off forever. And, if we have a whole lifetime of being at a healthy weight ahead of us, does it really matter if it took 12 months or 18 months to get there? I know, I know, we all want it in the least amount of time. That's why I have to come up w/these pep talks for myself when my weightloss slows. LOL

Hi, you sure have alot on your plate, but your a role model for some of us, so be FLEXIBLE, and sit-back and analyze your schedule and readjust some, it's ok not to reach a certain goal at a specific time, just readjust that goal to coincide with the dealings of everyday life. Stay focused and continue to meet your daily tasks. I am like you not much time in a day to use for myself, but we have to make that time through flexibility and adjustments. Yes we all get side tracked with the holidays, family members etc, but that's ok for us bandster's, just refocus and keep going. You can do it. I wish the best for you, your friend Ken.

I think the friend you lost to cancer would want you to LIVE!! To the fullest. Grieving yes...but you went thru all this to live, not fall back into the sadness, so get to it :thumbup:

(kick, kick) (ha ha)

You sound like you are doing great. Funny how we still want to wake up and it be GONE! old habits and all.

I too HAD to try my dearly loved Dr. Pepper--one sip...and BLAH! Hated it! So glad, cause it could be a major problem if I hadn't.

Jump right back up on the track and keep on keeping on.

Marie

Thanks you guys you are the greatest friends in the world, this site really helps me and you all are so right, I have to get up and get my head on and keep my eye on the prize for whenever it comes, it WILL Come! We are all made different yet share the same desires and same cause. I am so happy for my band buddies. I feel better today, got more done, moved around a little more today. Going to a party tomorrow night, my daughter will announce what our grandchilds sex is, she had a sonogram today! Yeah she has been trying for 8 years married for 10, yesterday was her Anniversary. She called me to see what I could have at the Party to eat, was that sweet or what? She is getting deli platters and cheeses, I can enjoy without feeling guilty! I am going to start to the Gym early in the AM on Monday, they have early morning body pump classes too! Oh Love all you guys!

Goal Limbo sucks, but if you keep plugging away you'll get there. The 5 day pouch test is a good way to shake things up, and like you said you need to up the calories and get at least 1000 in a day. Janet you're such an inspiration to others the accountability of that will help you along the way. ((hugs)) and so sorry you're having a tough time with life lately. -BG