Being the Fat Mommy at the playground (with the cherubic angel faced albeit a lil chubby) is NO. FUN. It was a very rude awakening for me about how people look at fatties like myself. And even moreso at the kids of these fat parents - especially if they display one iota of being a little rounder than the other kids.

My daughter is beautiful, outgoing, funny, loving, affectionate...but I caught the looks of other parents - at me, then her, then me again, then her again, then a shaking of the head or look of...pity. I mean, really?? I was the ONLY parent out in the play area running around with my child - yet they looked at me like I shoud be ashamed...for being fat, and for having the nerve to be seen in public running around with my lil chubby toddler.

Now, in my defense - GiGi was in NYC being spoiled by Auntie and G'ma. She put on a few pounds BUT, that doesn't mean that she is destined to be a fat girl like her mother. I've seen a lot of chubby toddlers with SKINNY parents, and aint nobody giving THEM the gasface. *gasfacing the ppl that gave ME the gasface*

I'm on this journey so that I can be healthy, and live longer and have the opportunity to enjoy playing with my growing child. Not only to mention, to teach her healthy eating & living habits. I'm overly concerned about her lot in life in terms of body type and (future) self image...which makes me super sensitive to things like what happened yesterday. I was litterally in tears when we left, and typing thru tear-filled eyes now.

I'm on my way to a better life...and my not-even 2 year old daughter hopefully won't remember me as the Fat Mommy that everybody else sees...but as the woman who would do anything in the world for her. IDK...reality checks are the hardest to cash. This will only make me more determined to stay the course. And bring my entire family with me on the way.

Today - I'm going to hold my head high as we venture to yet another mall. And I DARE a mofo to give me the Fat Mommy glare.

Let them stare and give their looks - best thing you can do is go on about your business with your child and sent an example of excellence for her at all times Like you said...Gasface to everyone else lol

I know how you feel. What’s really horrible is that children will tease other children because of what their parents look like. My baby, who is now seven used to come home telling me that her classmates would tell her that “her mommy has a big butt” or that “her mommy is fat.” It broke my heart to know that my daughter was suffering on the playground and in the classroom because of my weight issues. I didn’t want her to grow up ashamed of me. I’m big on attending her functions, games, and practices. I did not want the day to come when she either asked me not to come; avoided me; or pretended she didn’t know me when I showed up at her school. Of course at age five (when this started) to seven; she still thinks mommy is the bee’s knees. I knew that could change by the time she turned ten and I did not want that at all. My baby is thin and very athletic, but so was I when I was her age. Teaching her a healthy lifestyle is so important to me.

Here’s to us chubby mommies that are working on getting it together not just for ourselves but for our beautiful babies.

I totally get it. It doesn't help that my 6 year old is the biggest -- literally tallest and most developed kid -- in the entire first grade at her school. She's a solid kid but not fat but because of me, she's hyper aware of being perceived as big and fat. One of the siblings of a child in her class, who is 3, pointed at me and said "She's fat." Her mother shushed her and I really wasn't offended because she was 3. But what concerns me is that a 3-year old even knows that someone is "fat." It means the parents and/or siblings have talked about it enough in front of her, or explained it to her, so she's already developing prejudices based on her parents' perspective. I blew it off but I might eventually say something to the mother about it so she knows how hurtful the word is to my daughter and to others and perhaps she can correct her own kids so they don't stare at fat mommies on the playground in 30 years too!

OMG we live in a world of Prejudices!!!!! It sucks.

My son a college student said to me after I lost a lot of weight. "I really liked you larger there was more of you to love"......Then he said he knows I feel better now and I will live longer and he is happy for me that I have lost all the weight. He is proud of me. He even said I look hot!!!! LOL from my son! Go figure... I did feel I needed to make apologies to him for being a fat mother. I know it was hard on him. He said you were my mother and I loved you just the same.

I would really like to help stop FAT Prejudice.

Best wishes imaluckydog

Listen.. Your are beautiful and so is your daughter. Please don't let worthless people get you down. You are so much better than that. And a better Mom too! There are a ton of prejudice bitches out there and lord knows we have all crossed their path. But your heart is divine and you are on your path. There will always be those people who live in constant negativity and die in negativity. But you my friend are The "Light of Smiles" and you soar way higher that any snooty gasfacers!! Light of Smiles is a beautiful meditation that my ex turned me on to. Smile on the inside and light up the world on the outside. Don't worry about the insignificant and continue to enjoy the beautiful days with your daughter. You are an amazing mom and will continue to change negative patterns in your life which will filter down to the rest of your family. You are doing great!! keep rockin it Sista!!

I'm glad I'm not the only one who has gone thru this. I'm still a new mom, so I guess I was unprepared.

I experienced the same thing at the mall yesterday (diff mall). just walking thru the Mall engaging my daugther...and getting "The look": Fat Mommy / Fat Kid / look of disgust. (even tho I don't necessarily think she is fat...(she came out BIG @ almost 8lbs 3.5 weeks early! and her dad is 6+' tall)

It just pisses me off that some folks are actually teaching their kids to discriminate. but I see that fat discrimination is in full effect. I can't WAIT to show those so-in-so's a thing or THREE!

That reminds me - maybe I should censor my blogs here. *lol* Alot of folks seem to be on the same page with me. w What's the worst that can happen? *lol*

This is my daughter that everyone is giving me a hard time about. PISSES ME THE %*@! off!

I know exactly what you are talking about!! My son is 2 1/2 and is 39 lbs and 38 inches..he has always been at the 98 percentile on the charts and was 9 lbs when he was born..he isn't fat but most do not believe he is 2...but when you see him eat and I am around..you get those looks. I had seen articles prior to being banded about kids who were embarrassed or ridiculed about thier mothers sizes, I swore then I was going to do something--it was kind of like the icing on the cake for me.

How cute!! She is adorable!! I didn't see the picture before I posted!

She's PERFECT! People are hideous! These same people probably have something that actually does make them a bad parent but you cant see it...alcoholism, abuse, smoking, etc !!!Otherwise why are they looking at someone else...again, she's PERFECT!!!!

I'm back because I thought about you all morning. You are wonderful beautiful mother and your beautiful little daughter is the light of your life. You are the light of hers. Walk proud hand in hand and Be yourselves the best mom to the most precious of all. First they grow up so fast and she is in a toddler stage so much changes to little one as they grow taller. I watched my own change it is amazing.

I just wanted to say to you you are being the BEST mom this little girl could ever have. Keep it up and for me I found keeping focus on myself made me feel better. Do not listen to others. Best wishes imaluckydog

Your baby is not fat. She is gorgeous. My baby was chunky and cheeky when was that age in fact, most babies that I know are - especially the breast fed ones and mine was defintely breast fed! You know they could be looking because they are envious. You can run around with your baby, you engage your baby, and you've got your own style. Before my surgery, I couldn't get around well at all. I used to stare at moms who could join their children in play and wish it was me. Just Friday my baby's choir was tie dying t-shirts. I was the only mom who couldn't get on the floor - I sat in a chair and helped. Did I look and wish I could get on the floor? Yep I sure did. So when youa re getting those stares, remember you are out there enjoying life and they are sitting on the sidelines watch YOU!