So I was thinking the other night. I recently took a trip to visit some old college friends that I had not seen in about 12 years. I was very excited about this. One of them was a female friend, and yes we were only friends. I had the biggest crush on her in college which she knew about, but nothing ever came from it. Well the night we all went out alcohol start to take its toll and we start talking. She tells me she is sorry for not liking me the way I liked her. I told her that she had nothing to be sorry about. it happens. We are both married now and in great relationships so there is no reason to be sorry. She still continued to apologize. She thinks that i still like her. I told her of course I still liked her but just as a really good friend. This leads to her telling me I was too NICE, and that I KNOW WHERE NICE GUYS FINISH!!!!!

Now under normal conditions I would just let that slide. The next day while I traveled home I started to think more about the conversation. I think I was just used a lot during college, even high school. THe reason I say this is I AM ALWAYS THE NICE GUY. I think deep down this is what lead to one of my reasons for having the surgery. I was sick of always being the FAT friend, NICE GUY, Ect........ Granted I am married to a wonderful woman now but those were many of the thoughts that went through and continue to go through my head. Deep down I want to show them all.

THe friend I had in college is still a great friend and we have talked about that night and think everything is good now. I told her how it made me feel and she apologized for it. Just some stuff I needed to get off my chest.

way to go...:huh2:

You know - from one of those girls that had my "nice" male friends, but dated the wilder, maybe not-so-nice, but handsome guys -- as I look back on my choices in high school and college, I realize I'd made HUGE mistakes. Those "friend-only" males were really the ones that I should've gone out with. I really believe that many times it's a total lack of security on the GIRLS' part -- our self-images were fragile enough that we had to pair up with somebody of a certain type. It wasn't anything lacking on your part! But after a few years (okay, now - a LOT of years!) many of those are also the guys that I still talk to, who are still a part of my life, and men who have made something of themselves -- men whom I admire today. So yep, let go of the fat guy part, but keep the nice guy part. I believe that in the end, NICE GUYS FINISH FIRST. : )

Nice guys ALWAYS finish first in my world, please don't ever change!

Thanks everyone, I appreciate it. It was just a hard thing to hear after 13 plus years, but it really made me think back to when I was in highschool ect........ It the long run I am better for it. I will always be the nice guy and that will never change.