yesterday i was watching the tyra banks show and she had guests on the show that blew my mind about how they felt about overweight people. one lady said they were gross and discusting and lazy. i wanted to choke this lady. then i thougt about it. i experience it every day when i walk out the door the looks. it is so wrong and i was so angry. the nice side of me wants to say im still a person reguardless of how i look on the outside. the world is a cold place and there is just way to much judgeing going on. and what gives them the right to say we are lazy. im far from it and im a damn good person and i wish others could look beyond the outside and see the angel within. but, the sassy person that i am will tell that ass off. i refuse to put up with anyone treating me this way. you can look but, you better not say any thing foul or its on. i lost that nice gene along time ago. i dont know why this upset me so i think cus i know thats what alot of people think. how childish can you be really.

well one thing I can say is.. this is a cruel cruel world we live in. People tend to judge by looking and not knowing the facts. Do these people think we wanna be FAT??? hell no I dont!! I hate people like that.. but you no what? What dont kill you makes you stronger.. and thats the truth. I cant wait till I get skinny and show all those ignorant people that has looked at me like Im disgusting.. I will show them.. anyways you take what you saw on the Tyra banks show and you make it your motivation for yourself.. and who cares what people say about you because they are ignorant people and they dont no ..no better.. be strong!!! it will be ok

I know exactly what you mean. I have been fat and I have been skinny and trust me people treat you differently when you are skinny. About ten years ago I lost a little over 100pounds. I became a size 8/10. I know part of it was the way i carried myself the way i felt in my skin and my confidence level but honestly poeple treat you different. I looked pretty decent, had a nice little figure going on, if I had car trouble looked like I didnt know what I was doing in the hardware store, people (yes men and women) were much more willing to stop and help. They treated me so much better as a skinny woman. I know because I got fat again. Even my family, they never stopped loving me but even the way they look at me when I eat, what I drink, judging, it's awful. I want to scream out I AM THE SAME FRIGGIN PERSON I WAS WHEN I WAS SKINNY, I AM THE SAME LOVING CARING CHRISTIAN HARD WORKING WOMAN NOW AS I WAS THEN! Any way I was banded in May down 52 pounds, praying this is the last time I will ever be fat again. I have 50 pounds more to lose, once it is gone, I pray it will be the last time. I also pray I never forget what it feels like to be treated different for being a big girl.

I always find some satisfaction in outperforming those judgemental pricks! My husband and I went on our honeymoon last year to Antigua. While there, we did an excursion that was a speed boat trip around the island. We stopped in one place to swim with stingrays and in another place to snorkel and in a third place for lunch on one of the top 10 world's most beautiful beaches.

It was advised to not do this excursion if you were not physically fit.

I swim 3 miles in the open ocean without getting winded. I'm FIT. 'Nuff said.

So I get out of the boat to swim with the stingrays. I'm swimming faster WITHOUT fins than the "fit" people were WITH fins.

Get back in the boat - and mind you, no one on this excursion will talk to me or if I move around to the groups, they are squeezing me out - cause I just don't look good - and they figure I'm done with my activity for this day long excursion.

Get to the snorkeling place. We are on the windward side so the currents we had to swim against are pushing us back. Will be good when we swim back to the boat - but getting away from the boat was not the easiest. We were supposed to line up behind the snorkel guide so he could point us in the best direction for snorkeling. There is a place to snorkel for "weak swimmers" and a place for "strong swimmers".

I'm strong. And I want to see MORE. So I head off with the strong swimmers. Another participant stops me and says, literally - don't you think you should probably stay in the boat? You don't need to be holding us back.

Nope. That's not what I think AT ALL!

I couldn't swim SLOW enough for that group. I was free diving to 45 feet while the "fit folks" couldn't even bob below the surface.

We swam back to the boat after a hour long snorkel trip - and they ALL apologized to me. One person said, I just assumed because of how you look that you couldn't do it. I'm sorry for judging you.

That's about the only time in my life I can think of people apologizing for being judgemental. Straight to my face.

At the third stop, I ate far less than anyone else, of course. Someone said - after all this activity you've got to be hungry. Nope. Can't explain it. But not.

And after lunch - ALL them fit people went to sleep on the beach - and I was out in the water playing in the surf.

Got back on the boat and enjoyed the rest of the trip around the island. When we got back to the resort one of the tour guides pulled me aside and said he'd never seen such a strong swimmer and if I ever wanted a job in Antigua - look them up.

When they have to eat their own judgements, inside it makes me jump for joy.

All I can say - just remember how this all felt when you are skinny (not that you wouldn't).

And I know what you mean, NewMechelle about family. They assume I'm lazy and a slob more than any stranger...although, unlike strangers who don't think twice about it later on, my family just talk about me behind my back and to my face say it's no big deal. My family is the WORST!

thanks everyone for the replys as this was a blow to me and had me really angry. on the show one lady was at a beach and this lady to her she was disgusting and needed to move now. i thought about that and i must say i would have whooped that ladys ass rite there.

but, yesterday i went into the chinese place by my house and the lady in there has not seen me since i had surgery she goes u so skinny now i smile and say not yet she goes u was super huge before and laughed can you believe it i tried to laugh it off but, she started talking in her langueage to the other workers and one goes ya u was really fat now you look good i go that is just fucking rude u know. she goes but you pretty now i go give me my damn food i was pretty before. i have had enough of it i use to just not say any thing now i do i will speak my mind hell you try an embarrase me and you gone caugh hell. if we dont speak you its gonna keep happening. and yes i think you get it worser from family some times. i to cant wait to get to a normal weight my best friend said to me one day that she had to go on a diet i go oh yeah she asked how much i weighted and i tell her she goes damn how you let your self get that big i wanted to tell her off so bad but, i didnt to make a long story short she getten bigger by the day. now she wanna ask me for help so she can get it off i dont even bother with her. im finding myself removing people that i though was my friend and meeting alot of new ones and it feels good. i like the new me and the thing that im trying as the old me would have never did it.