Jump to content
×
Are you looking for the BariatricPal Store? Go now!
Sign in to follow this  
  • entries
    53
  • comments
    158
  • views
    7,238

The lapband and tears

Sign in to follow this  
bashful1269

535 views

One year ago today my best friend April called me from the hospital and told me that she needed me...Alex (her four yearold son) was not going to make it...I called work and rushed to the University of Missouri, he was alive when I got there...I saw the change at about this time 10 am..The life in his eyes was gone, his body was being kept alive by the machines ...but he was gone...They tried everything in their power to save this little guy, but it was too late. It wasn't until 8:45 pm that his little body finally gave out. We were waiting for his grandma to get there, but he couldn't hold on..

 

As I sit here today remembering my little buddy and that day I feel the lapband getting tighter and tighter with every tear I cry, I can't stop crying, I can't stop remembering his eyes...That lifeless look as he lay there hooked to all of those machines. The helplessness I felt for my friend this was not her first lost child, this was her second in less than five years...Serinity was 20 days old and Alex was 4 years and 4 months old...WHY??? WHY does GOD do this???

 

I found a poem that I shared at Alex's funeral, it makes since it's just still hard to understand WHY>>>> For all of you who are mothers out there...Hold Your Children Close!

 

 

God's Lent Child

 

I'll lend you for a little while a child of mine, God said,

For you to love him while he lives, and mourn for when he's dead.

It may be four or five years,

or forty-two or three;

But will you, till I call him back, take good care of him for me?

 

He'll bring his charms to gladden you, and should his stay be brief,

You'll have the lovely memories as a solace for your grief.

I cannot promise he will stay, since all from earth return;

But there are lessons taught below I want this child to learn.

 

I've searched the whole world over, for teachers kind and true;

And from the throngs that crowd life's lane I have chosen you...

Now will you give him all your love? Nor think the labor pain?

Nor hate me should the angels call, to take this child back again?

 

To which the parents did reply...

Dear Lord, Thy will be done.

For all the joys thy child will bring, the risk of grief we'll run.

We'll shelter him with tenderness,

We'll love him while we may...

for all the love this child will bring,

forever grateful we will stay.

But should the Angels call for him,

much sooner than we've planned,

We'll brave the bitter grief that comes,

and try to understand.

 

We had a grave side memorial today, April read a poem that she had written last night and I thought my heart was going to fall from my chest.

Sign in to follow this  


10 Comments


Recommended Comments

One year ago today my best friend April called me from the hospital and told me that she needed me...Alex (her four yearold son) was not going to make it...I called work and rushed to the University of Missouri, he was alive when I got there...I saw the change at about this time 10 am..The life in his eyes was gone, his body was being kept alive by the machines ...but he was gone...They tried everything in their power to save this little guy, but it was too late. It wasn't until 8:45 pm that his little body finally gave out. We were waiting for his grandma to get there, but he couldn't hold on..

As I sit here today remembering my little buddy and that day I feel the lapband getting tighter and tighter with every tear I cry, I can't stop crying, I can't stop remembering his eyes...That lifeless look as he lay there hooked to all of those machines. The helplessness I felt for my friend this was not her first lost child, this was her second in less than five years...Serinity was 20 days old and Alex was 4 years and 4 months old...WHY??? WHY does GOD do this???

I found a poem that I shared at Alex's funeral, it makes since it's just still hard to understand WHY>>>> For all of you who are mothers out there...Hold Your Children Close!

God's Lent Child

I'll lend you for a little while a child of mine, God said,

For you to love him while he lives, and mourn for when he's dead.

It may be four or five years,

or forty-two or three;

But will you, till I call him back, take good care of him for me?

He'll bring his charms to gladden you, and should his stay be brief,

You'll have the lovely memories as a solace for your grief.

I cannot promise he will stay, since all from earth return;

But there are lessons taught below I want this child to learn.

I've searched the whole world over, for teachers kind and true;

And from the throngs that crowd life's lane I have chosen you...

Now will you give him all your love? Nor think the labor pain?

Nor hate me should the angels call, to take this child back again?

To which the parents did reply...

Dear Lord, Thy will be done.

For all the joys thy child will bring, the risk of grief we'll run.

We'll shelter him with tenderness,

We'll love him while we may...

for all the love this child will bring,

forever grateful we will stay.

But should the Angels call for him,

much sooner than we've planned,

We'll brave the bitter grief that comes,

and try to understand.

We had a grave side memorial today, April read a poem that she had written last night and I thought my heart was going to fall from my chest.

Share this comment


Link to comment

Oh, I am so sorry!! Your poem is beautiful. My heart hurts for your friend and for you. May God be near to you during this sad, dark time.

Share this comment


Link to comment

Thanks, it's been a rough day. I never realized how much the stress would cause my band to tighten. I've been on soft foods as nothing else will go down. It's tough this is the time that I've always turned to food and I'm having to learn to cope without....food.

Share this comment


Link to comment

Bashful - what a sweet poem. I'm sure you've brought great comfort to your friend with your kind heart and gentle spirit. It never seems fair to lose a child - I'm not sure I would survive. God bless you and keep you strong!

Share this comment


Link to comment

I hope you're healing tonight, my friend. Thank you for sharing the poem. My prayers for you and April and the rest of the family.

Share this comment


Link to comment

Thanks everyone for your thoughts and kind words. It's been a tough day. We have shared many stories of Alex today, many tears and quite a few laughs. He was an amazing little boy, who brought happiness into all of our hearts.

Share this comment


Link to comment

Just being able to get thru each day after this is a monumental effort for you and your friend, i send my prayers your way. Chooky

Share this comment


Link to comment

Your question is really easy to answer: there is no God. Events on earth take place at random. Your intentions are great but, really, Angels? The child had medical problems, nothing less, nothing more. Nature is neither good nor bad; it is indifferent. Sorry for your loss.

Share this comment


Link to comment

Create an account or sign in to comment

You need to be a member in order to leave a comment

Create an account

Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!

Register a new account

Sign in

Already have an account? Sign in here.

Sign In Now
  • Recent Blogs

  • Blog Comments

    • I’ve used my Xbox for exercise games too and it can be pretty motivating, especially on days when I don’t want to leave the house. Kinect games really do make you move, and after a session with kickboxing or dancing, I always feel like I’ve actually gotten a solid workout. The controller-free setup feels way more natural for workouts than anything I tried on the Wii. Zumba is fun but definitely takes a little time to get the moves right. Lately, when I’m not working out, I spend time trading CS2 skins and finding new guides on this link. There’s a lot of interesting tips if you’re into games outside of fitness too.
    • I'm literally almost crying reading this. Mostly because I'mon this pre-op diet and these last two days have been difficult... but also because I needed this! Thank you! Congrats! And a BIG congrats on quitting smoking a second time! It was hard enough to do it once... So - when I say BIG congrats... I mean BIIIIIG congrats! ❤️
    • Congratulations! What a great journey! Thank you so much for sharing. You are inspiring!
    • Was sind last resting-place besten Gewinnchancen in einem Casino? "Einarmige Banditen"
      Einarmige Banditen
      Casinos werden in erster Linie mit Roulette und Poker in Verbindung gebracht, aber Statistiken zeigen, dass 61 % der Besucher von Spielhallen ihre Zeit damit verbringen, einarmige Banditen zu spielen (Daten von 2013 von der American Gaming Association). Perish Regeln der Spielautomaten sind sehr einfach, und der niedrige Mindesteinsatz macht sie auch fur decease armsten Spieler zuganglich.


      https://berliner-vv.de/articles/wie_man_sich_f_r_einen_casino_abend_kleidet.html
      https://sen7.com/typo3/inc/?welches_casino_zahlt_am_schnellsten_aus____bewertung_von_online_casinos_top_10.html
      https://justinekeptcalmandwentvegan.com/wp-content/pages/welches_online_casino_ist_zu_empfehlen___online_casinos_mit_guter_rendite_2022_.html
      http://ff-thyrnau.de/wp-content/pages/was_sind_die_besten_gewinnchancen_in_einem_casino___4.html
      https://buecherplaza.de/wp-content/pages/was_sind_die_besten_gewinnchancen_in_einem_casino___einarmige_banditen_.html
    • Fantastic!! Congratulations on being successful with all your hard work.
  • Together, we have lost...
      lbs

    PatchAid Vitamin Patches

    ×