It’s possible that no man will ever see me naked again. I have been celibate for seven years now. This is by choice, but now I think I am stuck. Seven years is a long time – those youthful years are gone and I won’t get them back. In that time I let myself balloon into a 332 blob of fat. Then in March 2008 I got the band. I lost 99 pounds – but had major surgery this summer and gained 27 lb back:scared2::thumbup:. Hopefully that will go away as soon as I start moving again. Although I look fairly decent in clothes, I know what I look like naked and I can’t see anyone wanting to be with that. Plastic surgery will cost me a fortune but I think I’d better start saving because between the flab, loose skin, stretch marks, and my c- section belly pouch – I am a sexual nightmare. It’s a shame because I am pretty and clothed I can look quite sexy at times (I hope this doesn’t come off as conceited). I just don’t think that a man would go from she looks hot in clothes to she looks like a flabby hag naked and be happy. I need an awesome plastic surgeon and a top of the line successful shrink – just writing this has put me in a funky/dismal mood.

So .... My surgery didn't go smoothly, my recovery has been rough... but I am back. I am losing those 27 and then some. I can safely lose 1 – 2 lb per week. That means that by the end of next June I can safely lose between 40 – 80 lb (I didn’t count any 5th weeks in a month – there should be at least one between now and then – I am pretty sure there are two). I’m shooting for closer to the 80lb marker than the 40 lb one. I’m done dwelling on those 27 lb (at least for right now I am). I am going to focus on 1 – 2 lbs per week – if the first 27 comes off quicker that that – well then Halleluiah!!! If they don’t – then I am good – and Halleluiah anyway.

I still may need that shrink…

You have been blessed and dont sell yourself short, Their is a man out their that when you meet him and you will he will love you just as you are. Thin or flabby. I tell my husband I feel like a beach ball with legs and he is all for me getting the band but says he will love me even if I stay the way i am. You will find him when you least expect it. Chin up and god bless.

Most importantly, you want a guy who loves the woman (YOU) not the body....

sex is easy love is hard...... try e-harmony, widen your neighborhood. the most difficult thing is that men are visual. some love big, some love small. it is the ones in the middle that have it hard. smile so you are a middle girl now, love the middle and the man that loves the middle will find you.

Don't get discouraged. I am sure that you are a sweet spirit, and that is more important than nudity. Keep working at it. The perfect man is out there waiting for you.

You go girl. Lose the weight that you want to. Start a savings account that is just for you. If you choose later on - consult a plastic surgeon. That is my plan and I am sharing it with you. I understand completely, I have a husband who loves me unconditionally and I am embarrassed in font of him. The hanging skin is a bummer.

Don't get down on yourself. You have done a great thing by losing 99 pounds. Celebrate that. Don't blame yourself for being down after surgery. If a man turns away from you because he doesn't like how you look naked then was he really in love with you to begin with? I have hanging skin too, but I focus on other assests. We all get in a funk too so don't feel like you can't have your moment too. Just don't stay in the funk too long.