so its my turn today to come on here and do some destrssing and try to get some feedback from some people on my life latley. well let me start off by saying that i was banded 2/9/09 and have dropped from 292 to 209 !! i still have a long way to go but i think im doing pretty darn good but i have a few issues my first issue i want to rant about is my family...they are just to darn hard on me at least i think see i still like with my parents and well i just feel like they watch me like a hawk...see about once maybe twice a week(rarley) i go out to eat with a coworker a sibling or friend and when i do my mom totally gets on my case and she goes on about how shes not the one that had the surgury and should not worry but i am the one who had the surgury and then i complain about what she cooks at home yet i go out to dinner with friends that i should know what im soing but shes just saying and blah blah blah blah!!(not to be mean) and im like seriously mom? is it really a big freakin deal that i actually ate out? i ve lost 80 something punds i think im doing pretty darn good i think i know what im doing why should i feel guilty because i ate at damn sizzler salad bar!! or what do you guys think?? then today my dad was like ur belly is getting bigger and pats my belly and youve gained some weight havent you?? i was like no!!(i really have not) and i was like are you kidding me?? your seriously telling me this right now?? then hell gut on my case bc i will eat l.f s.c sometimes or fat free cool whip or a banana and im like really?? your watching what im eating? again am i worng? then my other problem is that all my skinny coworkers are stashing the workplace with snickers starbust hot cheetos apple pies cookies and i obviously dont expect them not to do it because the fat girl cant eat it but how do i deal with them staring me in the face saying EAT ME!!:thumbup: SERIOUSLY i ate 4 snickers mini today and hot cheetos...i never eat them unless they are in front of me i dont want to fall back into old habbits so how do you guys deal?:huh2:so im so glad i got this off my chest !! now for some feedback?

That's def. not right of your family to be so critical. It was YOUR choice to have the surgery. It is YOUR choice what you eat and it is YOUR body. That's terrific you lost so much weight, keep up the hard work! As long as you're still losing then keep doing what you're doing. As for coworkers, that's a hard one. I just started back to work and am having some difficulty with it. If ppl around me are eating things I want but can't have sometimes I remove myself from the area or situation if I can. I've also gone out to eat with them but am still very cautious. I ask for a nutrition contents menu and order something healthy. Just because you go out to eat doesn't mean you're eating bad foods, maybe explain that to your family. I know I got along a lot better with my family after I moved out, maybe you should make that an option if you're able. I hope this helps. Best of luck to you!

First i want to tell you that my parents have always been critical of my weight and my dad needs this surgery himself. It isn't right. I have to ask if your parents paid for the surgery because that is going to make them feel like they have the right to monitor. If they didn't pay for this surgery then they need to realize that they don't get to critize how you spend your money.

Is moving out an option? If saying calmly that you are working hard isn't working then remove yourself from the situation. My hubby started to make comments about when I might eat something less than ideal. I told him that I am still at my lowest. As long as I am losing and not gaining he doesn't get to say anything about the food I eat. I go to the gym and am losing. That is enough. He realized that I was right and backed off. I told him if I start gaining and stop going to the gym then he has my permission to say something.

How do I avoid? I use something like Pink Limeade - Crystal Light (walmart barnd) to help with my sweet tooth. It tastes great, there are many flavors and it helps me get my water in every day. If you need a fix let yourself have a miniature chocolate square, but try the drinks. Watch out, some have calories.

Hang in there. It isn't against the rules to eat out, as long as you follow the bandster guidelines. On the flip slide you can't continue to complain about your mom's cooking. That isn't fair either. They aren't banded. Most of the time I eat different food than my family. They see my healthy eating, but I don't expect them to give up breat, pasta, rice and potatoes just because I have....and I cook the meals.

First of all I would like to say that you are absolutely beautiul. No I dont like girls I am happily married but it's nice to hear that isnt it? You really are. I am so jealous of your weight loss. That is absolutely incredible. I was banded on 5-28-09 and am down 44. I would love love love to be where you are so be very proud of yourself. I believe your parents mean well and worry about you however most of us who are severely over weight have control issues any way and honestly the hounding is not helping. It may be good to be open and honest with them and letting them know it only makes things worse.When ever we have control issues, I think the more we are pressured the more you decide you will do exactly what you want, and then unfortunately do just the oppoisite of what you really want only hurting yourself in the long run. You are doing incredible, stay away from the junk at work, It is very hard I know I work with a bunch of skinny chics too, makes me wanna choke them lol. God bless and good luck.

YES I CAN SEE WHAT YOUR ARE SAYING ABOUT YOUR PARENTS, THEY JUST WANT THE BEST FOR YOU. NO ONE WANTS TO SEE SOMEONE THEY LOVE BE OVER WEIGHT. BUT BEEN OVER WEIGHT IS A DIEASE I THINK, I'M 53 AND WAS JUST BANDED 8-17-09 I HAD TRIED EVERYTHING TO LOSE WEIGHT AND I NEVER COULD KEEP IT OFF. I FEEL YOUR PAIN, MY DAUGHTER IS 22 AND SHE IS ALSO GOING TO BE BANDED IN NOV,HOPEFULLY THE REASON I SAY THAT IS BECUASE SHE IS COLLEGE AND WE WILL HAVE TO WORK AROUND THAT.

EVEN THOUGH SHE IS GOING TO BE BANDED SHE HAS NOT SLOW DOWN ON THE EATING STILL GOES OUT TO EAT ATLEAST TWICE A WEEK. SHE IS THE ONE THAT WANTED TO BE BANDED I ASKED HER WAS SHE SURE BECAUSE SHE HAS NO WILL POWER. IT IS HARD ON THE PARENTS THEY WANT YOU TO BE HEALTHIE.

YOU HAVE GONE ALONG WAY JUST BY BEEN BANDED, SO DONT GIVE UP YOU CAN DO IT, I HAVE FAITH IN YOU, I DONT THINK YOU WOULD HAVE GONE UNDER SURGERY FOR NOTHING, YOU WILL LEARN THAT FOOD IS NOT EVERYTHING. NOTHING TASTE AS GOOD AS BEEN HEALTHIE AND SKINNY.

BEFORE I WAS BANDED I MADE UP IN MY MINE THAT I WOULD NOT TELL EVERYBODY, BECAUSE SOME PEOPLE DONT WANT GOOD FOR YOU. I EVEN TOLD MY BOSS AT WORK THAT THIS IA MY BUSINESS AND I DID NOT WANT PEOPLE TO KNOW WHY I'M OFF. WELL I WISH YOU GOOD LUCK, IF I CAN HELP YOU IN FURTHER JUST E-MAIL ME,ENMU20@AOL.COM