I am having such a hard time right now dealing with my BF. We have just grown apart, and I am so lonly. She has been the person I told everything to, I relyed on her for support and a shoulder to cry on. We went from talking four to five times a day to now talking maybe two or three times a week. I am fine with the fact her and I are not being so close because she has changed in a way that I don't care to be around, but its hard for me because I don't feel like I have anyone to cry on. She is now drinking on a daily basis, and has changed her attitude about how a lady should act. I don't see anything wrong with drinking a beer here and there, but damn, when you have three kids and you have a get together and get tore up in front of the kids, thats just sad. I am scared for her, her father is a drunk and she is turning into him. (I can't believe I just said that)

Ok, on to a better subject, I am so excited about my band. I have 1 month to wait. I feel like my life is fixen to start, I did get my bike out and rode around the block 4 times. I was so proud of myself, but dang I was hurting. My legs felt like mush after all the hills that are in my neighborhood. But I did it, I need to ride around the block and check the distance in my car. Today I am doing the cross trainer in my room. I am shooting for one hour but we will see how long my legs hold out....

I'm so sorry you no longer have the friendship with your friend that you used to have......and it IS healthy to acknowledge that heredity does play a part in the fact that your friend is drinking (like her father)....is there any way that she would accept help? I assume you have been there/done that....will keep her in my prayers also......no one deserves a life of alcoholism....it really is NO different than being addicted to food....same struggles, different reason..........'maybe' if you shared your lap band info with her it would help? She will see that you, too, have a struggle of your own and are doing something about it......just a thought