Just some goings on in my life at the moment...
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Okay, I know some people may not understand what I'm going to say, and maybe some will even be upset with me, but I am going to put it out there.
I have a step-daughter. She'll be 13 four days before I'll be 30 (she'll be 13 on May 18th). Several months ago, when she was with us for a week in the summer, she made a MySpace page. I didn't care, her dad didn't care...and for a while, she was happy and everything was fine. Then we got an email from her mother saying that she wasn't allowed to have a myspace page until she was 13, that was HER rule, and she made my step-daughter delete her account. I never ever told her to lie to her mom about it, which her mom accused me of doing. Her mom said that I made her do it, and made her lie to her, etc...I was pretty upset. But *I* was supposed to apologize to my step-daughter for not following her mom's rule in MY house.
SO, anyway, I let her create another myspace page...and put it under my email so her mom couldn't make her delete it. I never even gave her the password until last night. So, she was only on the myspace page when she is with us, and only when I log her in. She's not doing anything she's not supposed to on myspace, she's just connecting with her friends.
Last night, I discover that she has a facebook page - her mom created it for her. She's still 12. She was at a friend's house...so I thought maybe while she was there, she'd want to log into her myspace page...so I told her to call me. She didn't have her phone with her (that's a whole other rant). So, I told her through the facebook IM the username and password so she could get into it if she wants.
This morning, her dad gets an email from her mom saying about myspace again, and complaining again that I'm not following her rule.
Okay, when I was growing up, I had two homes...and they each had their own set of rules. My parents divorced when I was two. I followed the rules in my mom's house when I was with her, and I followed the rules in my dad's house when I was with him. My step-daughter's mom doesn't come from a broken home, so maybe she doesn't get it, and I'm sorry if anyone disagrees with me, but I'm not going to follow her mom's rules in MY house. We have our own rules for her to follow...and I don't get mad when my son follows the rules of his dad's house. The environment is completely different at our house versus her mom's house...we have two other children that live with us, she's an only child at her mom's. My son has one other child (sometimes two) at home with me, but there are FIVE other kids at his dad's - of course some rules are going to be different.
I'm not looking for validation for my actions, or to get bashed if anyone thinks I'm wrong...I guess I just needed to vent a bit.
I get so sick and tired of double standards where her mom is concerned. She doesn't even involve my husband in any decisions regarding his own daughter, unless it suits her. WTF? I can't wait until she's 18. We don't even get to see her for over a month because her mom switched around all of her weekends with us this month and we can't have her on the off-months because of other things going on with them.
It really is very frustrating because I'm just the step-mom, but she's like one of my own kids.
Okay, I guess I'm done venting for now. Thanks for reading if you got this far.
I have to be THE slowest loser EVER to have a band!
I'm so frustrated (yes, I know it doesn't help)!
I was banded May 12, 2008. My starting weight was 288.3. My current weight is 260.5 - and can sometimes fluctuate down to 253. I can't seem to break that 250 mark.
I have about 6 cc's in my band and some of the time, I end up throwing up what I've eaten.
What is wrong with me?!?!
I think I need some serious help. :thumbup:
